Dating : love to crush/flirt but fear of relationship ?
I tend to flirt a lot, and I get crushes pretty easily. If the guy and I can laugh about something together and I find him attractive, chances are: I will very quickly develop a crush on him.
But if they start genuinely showing interest I shut down and get scared. Am I just fearing a relationship? Am I shy? Am I just seeking approval/attention without the intention of it being anything more than flirting??
Does this happen to anyone else? Where you flirt but then get scared off when they actually show interest? (Not scared off by them directly, but personally just the thought of them being more than a crush)
**To be noted: I develop crushes a lot and they fade as often as they appear
It sounds very much like you have a little bit of an issue, lack of self confidence or lack of self acceptance or by others. Your action sounds like it’s approval/validation seeking.
If the guy doesn’t give in his attention becomes more valuable and you may mistake that feeling for a crush. But you fear the actual result of that.. A change in your lifestyle or change in relationship with a person or commitment and thus you pull back.
Does any of this apply to you?
Fam I relate omfg
Because you’re a who-er!