Dating : Met a girl and need advice
So this girl and I have been talking on a dating app for about 2 weeks now. Everyday she would only send 1 or 2 messages a day. So the conversation was very spread out. We finally met two days ago . We went for a walk and we talked throughout the entire time. No awkward pauses. Then after we had dinner and I could tell she kept moving closer to me slowly. We had a great time and she laughed and smiled almost all the time. Date was coming to a close and she initiated by telling me she would love to see me again so I asked for her number and she gave it immediately. She told me she is going to be busy the next 2 weeks so 2nd date would have to wait that long. As we were saying bye she gave me a nice hug (not those half awkward hugs) and waved bye and told me to drive safe home.
In the past I’ve been hurt so my guard has been up and I get anxious. So all these positive signs is getting me anxious. I texted her I had a good time later that night and she replied with she did too. I suggested the second date idea and I have not heard from her since, so it’s been two days.
Did she lose interest? My mind tells me I should take the loss and move on. Don’t really know what to think. Advise would be great.
TLDR; had a an awesome date with girl and I haven’t heard from her in two days and I’m getting anxious.
I know the feeling brother. The uncertainty of the timing, commitment and her intention is heart wrenching, especially when you are ready to take something seriously. It’s definitely not a closed door situation just yet, but you need to try and focus on what comes next without her. You got a taste of something good and for damn sure she led you into the fire a bit. Follow up with her in a couple weeks whenever she’s supposed to be back, but in the meantime it is best to consider it an afterthought. Best of luck, you’ll find someone good
You could study women for years and never break the surface. There’s no way to tell and asking her will drive her off. She’s testing you. Play it cool.
I know this sounds off but try detaching yourself from outcome. The Buddha said « attachment leads to suffering » expand your horizons. It would hurt to ask a different girl out. And this time, as her within a couple days of talking. Don’t drag it out. It’ll make you look bold and confident. She may even be better than the one you’re talking to now.
There’s always time to reply back at least once. But then again she was already lagging on the dating app. I say do your own thing and let her be, she might reply later on or maybe not. Just don’t get your hopes up. If it was the other way around she would’ve though that you were not interested anymore. She also mentioned she was gonna be busy for the next 2 weeks, there’s always a change she’s actually busy or somewhere where she can’t reply. Did she say anything about that during the date?