Dating : My date with a misogynist who loved our Dictator
So I met a guy on tinder, we talked for a few weeks and we decided to meet for a drink
While we were talking about life and such I asked him about his experiences with online dating and he said « it’s true that dating apps are the gathering of life and love rejects ». And I’m thinking « but you are one of them? ».
Later he says that « women aren’t worthy of being in a relationship with him and that they need to work to prove themselves as someone he might consider keeping ». I was so confused hearing this I kept thinking « this still exists? »
But the icing on top was when he decided to speak about our Dictator (Salazar – Portugal) and he said « I think he was a brilliant mind! ». I was in shock at this point and I said « what about all the people living in absolute misery and all the young men sent murder all the colonies? ». And I shit you not, he puts his hand on my cheek and says « oh you little girl you are so naive ».
And I left. I honestly cannot believe these people still exist!
Yep, sadly these kinds of people still exist in contemporary days.
I bet he probably didn’t even live under the Salasar dictatorship, isn’t he?
Caraças, dá já unmatch nisso!!!
Edit: faltou o Portugal Caralho!
Omg I can relate:
Back when I was in the dating scene, I went out with a Greek man;. I’m half Greek and Greek families are crazy so I thought *at the very least, it will be fun to meet someone of the same culture and compare stories.* This was our first official « date » and we went out for dinner. I went to the mall a few hours before we were scheduled to meet and fell in love with [this](https://poshmark.com/listing/Express-Flowery-Maxi-Dress-blackred-flowers-5eea9845e1316496f1f2ea9f) dress (not my poshmark post but the dress is important and wanted to show it). I was **so excited** to wear it and I felt so beautiful in it. I remember texting a picture of the dress to my mom and it was just a nice memory- it’s not often I rave or spend more than $20 on clothing.
Anyway, we met up and I got a feeling immediately that things were not going to work. The way he spoke to restaurant staff really bothered me, he tried to order my drink and food for me, and he left me to go smoke a cigarette even though I had mentioned awhile back that smoking was a deal breaker for me and he said he didn’t smoke.
My bad feeling became disgust when he told me that my outfit was too revealing. He said he didn’t like that my ankles and wrists were showing. He asked why I felt the need to show off- *wouldn’t you feel better if you saved all that for your husband?* I was so caught off guard. I’m very extroverted and good at glossing things over but I was speechless. Then he started saying that the reason he is dating is because he is trying to find the mother of his future kids. He wanted someone who wouldn’t work, who would stay home with the kids. He wanted at least six kids *preferably boys so his name would live on* like a woman can control that.
It’s hard to convey through typed words, but I got an ominous feeling, like I wasn’t safe. I don’t know if it was his low tone, the way he was looking at me, the way he was ending every sentence with « right? » or « don’t you think? » to try to get me to agree with him. I wanted to get out of there immediately. I remember thinking **thank God you didn’t drive here together.**
I was pleasant and agreeable the whole date. He walked me to my car and tried to kiss me (I can’t wear a shin-length dress in public but he can make out with me in a parking lot?). I blocked him immediately. I’m now happily married and pregnant and still think about how creepy that guy was.
Fuck you Emmanuel.
I found the most awful sub on accident the other day. It was a bunch of disgusting pigs, I refuse to call them men, who refer to women as plates. I guess like a plate is an option or something. They have them on the plate I don’t fucking know, it was disturbing to say the least.
You gotta be so careful these day. They are gathering together in large groups (online) and discussing ways to basically trick women into sleeping with them. Idk. It’s sad and the people that suffer the consequences the worst are usually the mentally ill. They talk about the kind of women to look for that are easy targets. It’s insane and I know it’s like a small fraction or whatever but is it? Like, is it?
I am scared to date again. I’m hoping I meet someone organically at work and I can get to know them first. Otherwise I’m gonna need to get a ruurl fancy vibrator/body pillow.
Why… why in God’s name would a guy bring up politics on the first date?
That is not your date that’s a movie villain lmao.
He was expecting you top be like « oh I’m not one of those girls, I’ll let you do whatever you want. »
I think everyone has to prove they are worthy of other’s time and attn.
Barf. And I can also guarantee he will find some poor sap to procreate with.
If you guys don’t see eye to eye on a political situation as drastic as this, then it’s a good thing you figure this out in the beginning before wasting your time with this asshat.
Here in the US if it isn’t obvious from their profile I will just flat out ask about Trump and if they support him I just move on.
Misogynists are far greater in number than most people realize or want to admit to themselves. They usually just hide it better than this at first.
what a condescending paternalistic asshole
edit: lol why do I get downvoted? he clearly acted like an asshole
Girl, please don’t go for Portuguese men. I am Portuguese. Born and raised. It’s not worth it. A big number of them still have that old school mentality that women are not as good as them and their mothers still clean their bedrooms even though they are 35.
Não vale a pena, a sério. Namora com um sueco ou finlandês.
Sigma male rule #101 – ask a girl if she’s a love reject on basis of her being on a dating website,
while being on the same dating app as her.
That same guy is gonna get on Reddit and complain in r/dating about how women don’t like him and reject him because he’s ugly and not fit enough and how he wonders why him doing “all the right things” doesn’t get him a girlfriend lol
You were lucky ! You got to know what he was pretty early
You gotta admit though, it’s pretty funny that these people exist and are oblivious to how they come across.
Not gonna lie I absolutely thought you went out with a Trump supporter after seeing just the words « misogynist » and « Dictator » lol
Sounds like a narcissist
Yup and now you know what a narcissist is like – they are everywhere
> Later he says that « women aren’t worthy of being in a relationship with him and that they need to work to prove themselves as someone he might consider keeping »
He put it in the worst way possible, but I can see his point (or at least I’m assuming that’s what he meant, it’s kinda hard to understand). But, both men and women shouldn’t look at the other half when dating, with an « am I worthy of him/her? » mindset. But rather, « is he/she worthy of my time? What does he/she bring to the table? ».
I had a low self-esteem during my 20s, and I always thought I need to make myself likeable or somehow change how I am to find a girl. That really changed in my late 20s and now early 30s. The mindset shifted from « will she like me? » to « will I like her? », and honestly after that, dating has been nothing but positive experiences for me.
I’m so sorry. I’ve found myself mid-date with a clear misogynist before. It’s ugly.