Dating : Need advice on what to do
I’m a 14 year old male and I have never dated anyone before and throughout middle school I have liked multiple people but there is one person I have liked since 7th grade and I started liking her because she was really nice to me and she seemed like she liked me at the time, because she would always want to partner up with me and was really awkward around me. The thing is when I started liking her and was kinda staring and admiring at her throughout the day she didn’t seem like she liked me and she seemed like she was mad at me. (Btw I am not good at socializing and only have a couple of friends, and the only time I talked to her was when we were partners or in group projects) when it was 8th grade I didn’t have any classes with her and we didn’t talk at all through 8th grade and this is why I am here, I just need advice on what to do from here. Should I try to talk to her and maybe ask her out, or should I just not try because we never talk?
Dude, you’re 14, your brain is still coming online. Look, I’ll tell you what my brother told me, « what’s the worst shes
going to say says? No? » Just go do it. Look, kiddo, I know you’re scared, I know it’s frightening, but the more you treat a girl like a dainty little glass heart about to fall off a pedestal, the more you’re going to be afraid to ask her out. Don’t be. You know when you go into the mall, say JC Penny’s or Von Maur and you see expensive shit and you don’t care? Treat it like that. Now, I’m not saying to treat her with 0 compassion, I’m saying to treat her like a person.
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So just goto her, tell her how you feel, tell her you want to date and if you get shot down, roll it off like it was nothing. You know how many girls have shot me down? You know how many jobs have shot me down? You know how many things I’ve wanted to do or how many girls I’ve wanted to date and got shot down? You get over it. The more you care about 1 thing the more you are going to be afraid to lose it. But once you have it, say this girl, you get her, you actually manage not to fuck it up and I’m going to warn you now YOU’RE GOING TO FUCK IT UP you’re a teenager, it will happen, the more you’re going to want to keep.
I’m 27, I can’t tell you how many GFs I’ve had, that I wanted to keep, balled my eyes out, gotten drunk and hated life, gotten over it, went on to the next girl. Don’t over think dating. But also don’t give it so little thought that your not interested. A good bit of your generation finds everything awkward and weird and has no idea how to socialize outside of technology. Which honestly makes me sad.
This isn’t me being a dick, if I sound like one, I’m trying to help you in the long run, I didn’t have Reddit then like you do now. came out 13 years ago (ironically I was 14 lol). I barely knew how Myspace worked. Facebook wasn’t a thing yet. I had to socialize. So, be lucky some adults can help you out on the internet…
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I hope I helped.
Go after her, don’t be scared tell her she’s cute flirt bro. The worst that can happen is she doesn’t like you back. You got this
I don’t see any problems go after what you want