Dating : Need to get over this girl online, not sure how.
Hey bit of a stupid thing to ask online, as the answer may seem somewhat obvious, but ima just get to the point. I’m 16 and live in Australia, theres this girl I talk to online, and she lives in england. She seems to be someone that id love to date irl, shes amazing, but the problem is that she lives on the other side of the world. A long distance relationship wouldnt work, as I dont see us visiting each other often, and who knows if what I see online is what she’d be like irl.
I basically just need some help getting over this shit, I cant stop thinking about it, and whenever I do, I just get somewhat upset. Any advice will be much appreciated.
Thank you.
My young friend, never ever become attached or attracted to anyone that you cannot know for real, in person. Anyone on the other side of your internet communications can seem like the person for you, even me! Doesn’t it seem silly for you to have such feelings? Please, just think about it for a moment! I’m sure you’ll get it soon enough!!
Don’t talk to her anymore. Go to the mall or the beach or whatever and leer at hot chicks.
Keep your mind busy with anything else and soon enough you’ll realise you’ve gotten over her.
I live in Canada and had a friend I met online through other friends from Norway. We talked a lot and became super close. We knew right away that we loved each other, but this was a different kind of love. We still dated other people, because we could never be together. But we were always still there. We were always there for each other during the breakups and the hard times. We Skyped and talked for hours and hours. We talked about running away together and how if we were both single @30 we were going to meet in Hawaii. He came to Canada with his sister in 2012 and we got to spend 1 amazing day together, touring Ottawa. Then he came to visit me again, spending 10 days at my house but I had a very mentally abusive boyfriend at the time so… he spent 10 days in my basement alone for the most part. When he got back to Norway, my at the time boyfriend made me block him on everything. I did, because I was stupid. When me and this guy broke up, Norway was still there for me when I unblocked him. He told me that he had been having some troubles with drugs & the law… I felt so bad because I wasn’t there for him. Not long after, he either deleted all his social media or blocked me. We haven’t talked since. It’s been probably 1.5 years. I’m pretty happy now, but I miss him so much. I think about him all the time. But I had to move on, we could never be, ever. Seeing him once every few years was never going to be good enough. I have a boyfriend now, here, that I live with and we have a puppy. Everything works out the way it’s supposed to, trust me☺️ just because she’s far away, doesn’t mean you can’t love her and be there for her. You just have to be realistic sometimes on who you can actually be with physically.
How can you be that attached to someone you’ve never met in person?