Dating : red flags, or am I (25F) overreacting? the guy i’m dating(28M) seems to have a problem with alcohol.
i know this guy from my former job, he worked for annother company but we met in professional settings. my colleagues where friends with him and we went out in a big group. after that i quit my job and we went on three dates. during every single one he had at least a few shots of alcohol at some point. we got very drunk on our first date and that’s how we had our first kiss. this really worries me because i had a hard time refusing alcohol around him.
i adressed him drinking a lot and he got really offended and said that he does not drink that often. according to him his ex didn’t like him drinking as well. we wanted to meet up tomorrow and he texted me: »don’t worry if i come to the date tipsy. I’m meeting up with a friend of mine before the date. ». The whole thing seems like one big red flag.
what do i do now? I do not want to tell him what not to do and i go out sometimes as well. heck, I was drunk thursday. I just never met up with him and then left sober. and he had so much more to drink but maybe he is just nervous? I really like talking to him but I do not know what to do.