Dating : Is it me or does anybody else find it really creepy when someone declares they’re in a relationship with you even though you guys didn’t talk about it??

Dating : Is it me or does anybody else find it really creepy when someone declares they’re in a relationship with you even though you guys didn’t talk about it??

So here’s some background about me before we get started since it’s kind of a factor and plays a semi important role as to why I make the decisions that I do.

I’m 5’6 and I’m weak in overall physical strength. I’ve been assaulted before in the past and I feel safer with being with people that are taller than me.

I have a lot of mental health issues that I am trying to get taken care of but it’s difficult to do that due to the fact I don’t have a car to go to a mental health place let alone even the money.

Now since we got that out of the way here’s where the story begins. I was working the two job grind from January to June. Back in late April of this year I started talking to this guy. Let’s call him « Daniel ».

Daniel and I became really good friends after the first time meeting. He was everything I was looking for. He was over 6′ foot tall and he had the same sense of humor that I do. (My sense of humor is really dark)

Ever since day one of meeting Daniel I’ve explained that I went through a lot of trauma the past year and a little bit this year with abusive relationships.

Daniel seemed very understanding of this (so I thought) and he said he was willing to take the time with me to make sure I was ready for a relationship again and he offered to give me emotional support whenever I was down.

Things were fine until about last month. Daniel declared that him and I were in a relationship since May even though we never talked about it. I explicitly told him I wasn’t ready yet and when the time came I would date him.

Now looking back at it I feel like he had bad intentions and wanted his friends to think he was sleeping with me. He was telling multiple people, including his parents that I was his girlfriend and we were in a relationship.

Daniel seemed rather upset by this and told me he would never cross my boundaries again. (He lied about doing that).

Last Friday I was working and I got a severe oil burn on my wrist. I had no way of getting home, I didn’t have any weed on me so I had to deal with the pain. I didn’t have money for uber since I didn’t get paid yet. Also, I had to walk a little over an hour to get home while it was hot outside.

I talked to Daniel about my day and I vented to him about it and I made the mistake of telling him how I was feeling about everything.

He proceeded to make a Snapchat post saying he needed a friend to talk to because I made his day mentally taxing. He didn’t say me specifically but he was vague posting about it.
He didn’t tell me if I was being too much, he didn’t tell me he needed a break from me.

Anyways I didn’t talk to him for a few days because I was busy with working and trying to recover from my oil burn.

Yesterday he crossed my boundaries again and told me that I broke up with him even though we were NEVER official to begin with.

He subtly called me an idiot and told me to google mental health places and I’m deliberately making myself suffer through mental misery.

It’s like he never even listened to me when I told him it’s hard to find a mental health place that’s not too expensive to uber to and to make payments on.

He told me I could go to school and just implied that it’s an option for me and that I could get out of the field I am in.

It’s like he never listened to me when I told him that I can’t go to school because I have terrible anxiety and a severe learning disability. Whenever it comes to remembering simple information from a class I can’t really do it. I immediately forget it. I was on a lot of pills for a long time as a kid and they just rotted my brain essentially.

Yesterday when I was explaining to him that hey you crossed my boundary and we were never official to begin with he acts pity and is like « that’s al I needed to hear. Goodbye.  » more or less.

So yeah, have you guys ever dealt with shallow people before that didn’t give a shit about crossing your boundaries because they’re narcissistic?