Dating : Second Date?
Hi all,
So, I went out on a date with a woman this last weekend and I really can’t decide whether I want to give it another shot or whether I should just let it die off. I tend to reject women too easily (i.e., I’m too picky), but I also just feel this overwhelming sense of ‘meh’ with her – we had some chemistry, but not quite enough. It’s partly because she’s of a religious background that makes me doubt whether we’ll ultimately be compatible, but I also felt bored on the date at various points. I tend to think it’s not a good sign if I’m already bored with someone when I’ve only just met them. We have a lot in common otherwise (she works in IT, she speaks multiple languages, she likes reading), so it should be a good match in many ways, but somehow I can’t kick this hesitation. I haven’t texted her in a few days, nor has she texted me further, so it might already have gone the way of the dodo, but she did emphatically state how much she enjoyed our date at the end of it and asked me to just let her know instead of ghosting her if I decide I’m not interested. I have to decide either way.
What do you all think? Should I trust my gut and nix a second date, or is my gut feeling only a pattern of aversion to giving a real thing a chance?
Thanks!
I think what’s the harm in trying a casual second date? If there are things you find interesting about her, and you’re on the fence, I’d give it another shot.
Sometimes the pockets of boredom could be a result of feeling reserved and nerves upon meeting a stranger for the first time.
A second date might help you make a certain decision, and possibly save you from wondering ‘what if’.
With this girl, there doesn’t seem to be much chemistry. I wouldn’t go on a 2nd date.
For dating in general, sometimes it takes longer than the first date to establish something. Some people may get an instant spark,, others take a while to warm up. It might take you a couple of dates to get to know and establish a connection with someone
No. It seems like you’re not feeling it. If it’s something you can’t get past by let it go because it’s going to keep being a problem later down the road. Tell her no to a second date and move on.