Dating : Seriously….Is this sub filled with people who have NEVER dated previously?
Dont get me wrong, sometimes we all need dating advice….we all get nervous and wanna double check if we leaned in for a kiss at just the right moment…..but my god….some of the posts on here are starting to come across as if people are 15…
Those posts like « did i hold her hand too much »…….. or « she said my hair looked cute, does she wanna marry me now? » are becoming way too frequent
Can we all chill the fuck out and relax and before we ask reddit read, try and some social queues. If you are unfortunate enough to be AS then google or search your answer on here.. » please…
people need this kind of help. I think an advice forum for dating is the most realistic output for these kinds of questions.
Some didn’t have the guidance and haven’t yet gathered the experience to know the answers to the questions you cited.
You said « google it » but what comes up when you google something? reddit posts.
You must remember that the majority of people do not receive dating advice, tips, tricks, and training. Government mandated schooling does not teach that. Nor do parents and even siblings. The main source of information regarding dating comes from media such as movies, cartoons, books, TV shows, comics, manga, etc. So of course there is a high rate to find posts asking for help on matter that may seem miniscule for some but not for others.
>some of the posts on here are starting to come across as if people are 15
Dating in high school is not a given. Some of us have to start dating later on in life for various reasons. I was raised in a strict Christian home and went to an all-girls high school. My parents were the type to ask for the names of people I was hanging out with, so I definitely did not have a chance to meet boys unless they went to my church. I didn’t date in university either because I was depressed and had social anxiety. Plus, the demographics at my university weren’t in my favour anyway. So yes, I’m 25, and I have never held hands and kissed a man, and I will definitely ask for tips if I eventually start dating.
Most of them are written ny kids dude. Just ignore the stupid ones and keep scrolling.
I went out with a 40 year old who kissed like a German Shepard, I wish to god he had consulted Reddit first.
She breathed in my general direction, does she wanna bang?
When emotions are at play, people just want a little bit of reassurance and guidance 🙂
I think the ratio of socially inept people is larger than it was in the past because people can get further in their life without the skills. Then they hit adulthood and can’t figure out why nothing is working for them the way it’s supposed to, including dating.
Most of the people in this sub need therapy, not a gf/bf. they either hate men or women or are totally socially inept and incapable of receiving advice.
You should check out r/datingover30. Posts like you’re explaining but apparently the people appear to be in their 30’s.
I feel you lmao. But I dont think theres a lot of crossover between the type of people who frequent reddit and people who are out there dating 5 women a month
As someone who’s been in a whole bunch of relationships and who’s on the autism spectrum, I feel like a lot of people don’t get good dating advice. I’ve learned over time, but I think it’s fair to ask for a bit of guidance. Sometimes it can also help to just have someone behind you as you venture through the process.
I agree. People overthink things way too much. Sometimes a compliment is just a compliment. Seems like people lack social skills and how to read body language. Relax and have fun for christ’s sake!
Reddit skews very young, I think.
Uh I mean, yes? Kids are going to disproportionately ask advice about stuff in general.
I imagine this sub attracts all types of people with all types of experience. If they have come here with a question and can be helped with advice then they should ask it. Just because it doesn’t apply to you doesn’t mean it won’t help someone else.
I have never dated
I’d like to point how how many people talk about social queues but no one ever can actually describe them beyond vague and obvious stuff
This sub is gonna attract people who have little to no dating experience at all. Not to mention we’re just getting out of 15+ month quarantine. (At least the for the people in the US) Idk about you guys but my social skills (fairly minimal tbh) feel like they’ve reset to pre-highschool levels. You know what confuses me? People who get frustrated with other people for not knowing stuff and going to look for more insight. You got advice or something to say you think will help? Cool give it. If not then move on to the next post. Not everyone learns the same stuff around the same time.
Why are your replies filled with such a confrontational tone?
The world have changed and Kids today is on the net and asking alot. I would have liked otherwise
Get used to it, scroll Though or get out of reddit.
Cheer up
Lmao, I understand what you’re saying, but not every thread on here is like that. I usually steer away from threads where the people are in their super late teens or super early 20’s because ifs usually for stuff you mentioned.
If Reddit was a think when I was on high school/early college and still new to dating, I would have for sure posted or at least searched up what I would now consider silly questions.
Well, from what I’ve seen a lot of them are actually teens and/or haven’t dated before. Idk, people tend to overthink too much when they’re nervous. And people get very nervous when they like someone and they want to be reassured that they didn’t screw something up. I remember when I started dating and also had no freaking clue what I was doing.
I get your point, but I also get their’s for wanting to get specific advice for their particular situation instead of reading someone’s advice on someone else’s story.
Man, you are salty AF. Just unfollow the sub. People need advice and most are very young. It is what it is, go take a salt bath.
I’m 23 and have never dated before. Sorry to disappoint
People that don’t have issues with dating will probably not make a thread here.
What did you expect?
This is suppose to be a safe space. People go through real life things and reaching out to Reddit helps other people who feel alone in their problems.
You made a whole post bashing people seeking help/advice but everyone else is 15? Like why does it bother your life this much that you had to make a whole post about it?? What’s obvious to you may not be obvious for others.
I never had a serious relationship 1 if you count my teenage one. So yes there are a lot of people like me.
I had lucked out to get laid multiple times by doing nothing but hanging around women who essentially dragged me into the bedroom.
If I had to do it all on my own no way.
And social cues are unfortunatly not common sense nor obvious