Dating : Should I date a guy who smokes and has belly fat if I don’t like those qualities?
I am against smoking for sure. The belly fat can be compromised on. He’s a good looking guy but I don’t want to date him just to end up changing him. I don’t want to work on changing anyone.
You are not going to change him. Accept him or don’t. But don’t go in expecting you can mold him to be who you want him to be. It is a terrible way to enter a relationship.
You answered your own question.
1- going into a relationship to change someone is fucked up and entitled as hell.
2- you’re the only person who can decide whether the bad qualities outweigh the good and what your deal-breaker are.
no.
I’m against smoking too. But I met a guy via OLD and he smokes. Bottom line, I like him enough that I don’t care about the smoking. (the is very clean, and respectful. When he takes a smoke break he always goes outside, and always brushes his teeth afterward… this is not from me, it’s his behavior. So I think that helps. I thought our first kiss would be bad.. but it was awesome and I dishing taste an ash tray…. so…. up to you.
No
Lol what? This wont work out in the long run.
Don’t force somebody to stop smoking. It is something they should realize you don’t like it and willingly stop it.
Nope. If you are not attracted, don’t.
Some guys could make the effort to change for their girlfriend/wife/long time partner, but they won’t for the first date for only one girl
You shall be true to your preferences.
You shall not try to change people.
You shall become the kind of person you want to be with. Like attracts like.
What do you think?