Dating : Should I give up on dating because of my height? I’m 5’4″. Does it become easier as I get older?
Hello.
First off, I want to talk a bit about myself. I am 22 years old, and I graduated from Uni last year. I work a job that pays me 50k a year, got my own car and everything. Also, I go to the gym three times a week, and I have quite a muscular body after three years of training, though not disproportionate since I don’t use steroids. For hobbies I mostly like hiking and biking.
The reason I asked this question is because of an experience I had with Tinder the other day. I got to know this one girl and we got along quite well, so we met in person. When we met in person, her demeanor was much different, and after the date she texted me saying, « Sorry, I’m looking for someone a bit taller. »
Now this definitely wasn’t the first time that happened. I find it quite common that I will get along with a woman, but there’s no spark because I just am not attractive to them.
I have never been in any relationship and I’m still a virgin, and I have been trying to remedy that throughout University by being more interesting and successful in other parts of my life, but it seems like no girl is interested in me outside of friendship.
My biggest problem is that I honestly look like a teenager, especially with this height, and after thinking about it critically, I realize that I’m just not an attractive look to many women because I lack that masculine presence.
I don’t see how I can get myself into a relationship at this point. I am very social and have no problems talking with women, but again women like hanging with me because I look safe and friendly, not because they want a relationship or are attracted to me.
Is there any way to change that, or should I give up on dating and relationships? Does it get easier as I get older to find someone that will like me as more than a friend?
Get a third world wife.
I’m about your height. It can be hard but you’ve gotta work on what you can and not let the other stuff get to you. I put my height in my profile, it gets fewer dates but your less likely to go out with someone who will be turned off immediately at the sight of you.
U should not give up on dating and relationship. Just look for women who is okay with it. And continue to work on ur other attributes to improve ur value. A well groomed and charming 5’4 is better than a sloppy 6’4.
No excuses. My sister likes short guys. Stop allowing your despair such power to dictate your perception of yourself and the world around you. Also, stop beating off. Nofap helps with your confidence. If your not having wet dreams your not cocksure enough.
Oof, just don’t end up like boss meme guy
If you have money and willing to spend it on a woman who only settled for the financial security then absolutely. If you are smart with your money you can do this at any point. What are you willing to give up for a relationship?
Being able to financially support yourself is baseline, not impressive. Most 22 year old college grads have decent jobs and a vehicle. Don’t think that makes you special.
Your height is going to be unattractive to a lot of women but there are some that don’t care about height. Live your best life and continue putting yourself out there.
It definitely get easier as you get older, everything superficial does. There are always going to be shallow people but they weed themselves out over time lol. My best advice would be to just put your height in your profile and skip that nonsense to begin with. Any girl who is that bothered by it isn’t worth your time.
I was at a concert past weekend. Saw plenty of short dudes with really hot chicks.
Obviously, there are plenty of short guys with a wife n kids, so, not sure what all this « giving up » nonsense is.
I’m 5′ 7″, and an introvert, probably a solid 6 – maybe a 7 on a good day as far as looks, but I’ve been able to do quite well in my life. I’d say I have been with women that are « out of my league », but I’m genuine and can be pretty witty and make them laugh in the right circumstances.
As for that girl. Good riddance. Was your height not listed on your profile?
Either way, get out of your head. Enjoy life. Be positive. Positivity is attractive. It’s easy to become cynical, but all that will do is ensure no one wants to he with you.
Best of luck out there.
It doesn’t get easier. I suggest you to wear lifts or do leg lengthening surgery, but the latter should be your final choice if all else fails and must be considered throughly and extremely carefully. Trust me you wouldn’t want to be accepted, you want to be wanted. Imagine your future girl date and love you so much but once or twice thinks « if only he’s taller »
Dating is a numbers game. You have to keep going until you find a girl that isn’t put off by your height. You must be persistent and you’ll get what you want.
I have friends that are 6’2 250lbs nice jaw, beautiful smile, great personalities and everything. And they struggle just as bad as i do at 5’9 150 lbs decent smile and some personality. It really just depends on who you meet. Have seen plenty of girls with short guys but those guys are at least taller then the girl most times. Just chill and try to have fun somehow
I believe it will get easier as you age. People attach less weight to physical appearance as they get older. Looking young will also turn into an advantage in another 5 or 10 years.
A 35 or 40 year old fit guy with a good job who looks good for his age will be attractive to many women.
I wouldn’t say give up on dating, but maybe online dating isn’t the best sphere. This goes for probably most men, maybe most people, not just short men. Women have so many options on dating apps that they can afford to be pretty shallow. If you do keep online dating, might be worth being up front about your height just to weed out those who will care before committing to a date (which tbh might be a lot)
But height isn’t going to be a dealbreaker for everyone. Plus there are short girls out there who may not care at all or even prefer it. If you’re attractive in other categories, there will be plenty of people who are able to overlook it.
Also, it does get better, because women (well, people) get less shallow as they get older and start to realize what really matters.
Your height is probably going to make dating more difficult for you, no way around that, but it is in no way a guarantee that you won’t be able to find a loving partner.
Your height doesnt matter as much as you think it does. I’ve know quite a few shorter men that had legitimate success with women. It all comes down to confidence. This relates to posture and how you speak. Work on those and people will look at you differently.