Dating : Should I let it be completely my SO’s decision to continue a LDR or should I be firm in my stance?
Short backstory, this guy and I have been dating for about 3-4 months (over the summer). We haven’t seen each other a ton with our schedules but in a way it makes the times we do see each other that much more special since we just have so much to talk about. I can tell that he likes me (little things he does/how he acts, you know) but next week he’ll be going off to college while I’m in my senior year of high school. He’ll be less than an hour away, though.
We went on a date last week and he brought up the topic of whether or not we wanted to try to make the relationship work but due to both of our non-confrontational personalities it kinda just ended with both of us saying how we’d be fine either with staying together or just going back to being friends.
I’ll be seeing him either this week or next week and I know we’ll have to make an actual decision. I guess I just can’t really tell how much he likes me; he’s definitely the type of person to hide something like that if he thinks I don’t feel the same and, quite frankly, I’m not always the best at showing affection. I know that college is a brand new experience and I don’t want to make him feel tied down to anything, but I also don’t want to just throw this away because I really like him. I was thinking just being straight up and admitting that I do really like him and that I’d love to try to keep the relationship going but I’m afraid that if he doesn’t want to then this will just make it harder to be truthful. On the other hand, if its reversed and he does want to continue it and can’t tell if I want to or not, this could be beneficial.
I’m rambling at this point, I guess I’m at a loss since I’ve never realized how conflicted feelings can make someone feel :/
TL;DR Been seeing a guy over the summer but he’ll be going to college soon and I’m still in high school. Want to tell him that I have strong feelings but don’t want to make this make him feel obligated to continue the relationship if he wants a fresh start in college. Am I giving him too much of the decision?