Dating : Should I stop waiting on this guy?
Back in April I matched with this guy on Tinder, we talked for a bit and he asked for my snap, then we moved it over to Snapchat. Since then, we Snapchat every day. Some days it’s almost constant, when we’re busy just once in a while. We’re both 20 and juniors in college, we live about 15 minutes from eachother at home and around an hour when we’re at college. There’s a catch though, he goes to one of the military service academies (so like West Point) so he won’t be home a lot this summer. We hung out once a few weeks ago and I had a really good time, he said he did too, but we didn’t kiss or anything. About a week after we kind of had « that » convo- I pretty much said hey, I’m really interested in you, if you don’t feel the same way that’s fine but just tell me that- turns out we’re both interested in each other, he said he was now looking for a relationship because he started to feel more comfortable at school and he told me to se show I feel. Up until that point I didn’t know if he really was interested or not so I thought that was a good thing. Some days I think he must be interested because why would he waste his time snapping me constantly (we’re also eachother’s #1 best friends- I realize that’s a bit silly), but then again, it could literally just be meaningless and entertaining for him.
Fast forward to last night, we were talking about when he’ll be home and I said I wanted to see him again, and he literally just goes « aww » and that was it. Like, end of convo. I’m starting to get frustrated because if he is interested like he said he hasn’t made any legitimate moves (we don’t have each other’s numbers, a serious plan to see eachother again soon, etc). I feel like I’ve wasted the past 3 months (although I’ve been on other dates, I’m REALLY interested in this particular guy) and I dont really want to waste 3 more. Like, I just want to know if he’s serious about this or me but at the same time, after only hanging out once, I dont necessarily know if it’s my place to be like « hey, where is this going, I’m losing patience ».
So, should I just try and give up/let him go? Or should I wait longer? Confront him or not?
TIA!
I would probably let it go. Doesn’t seem like he has the same interest. Get to know other people, never force a connection.
Let this guy go! He just enjoys your attention but does not want to commit to you. I’ve had this exact thing happen to me, except I found out the hard way. Just scale it wayyyy back in the amount you snap him and you’ll probably see pretty quickly that this is just a shallow relationship that is built on attention, not romantic feelings.