Dating : Ladies, share positive experiences you actually had with guys
This place is mostly negative, I’d like some positivity as well. Ladies pls share memorable experiences you’ve had with guys: romantic dates, flings or even platonic. Those times where you’ve been swept off your feet, got impressed, felt amazing, you bragged to your friends and to this day you reminisce about it.
tl,dr faith in dating needs to be restored
Ooooo I’ve had my fair share of amazing dates… I like to try new things and to be taught new things… ive gotten to experience quite a bit going on dates hasn’t been all bad..
I feel pretty blessed about the dates I’ve been on recently. The past couple weeks it’s just been with one guy in particular. The things he did that stuck out to me as sweet… He’d take me out to dinners and call a lyft for me home afterwards while making it obvious he’d wish he could spend even more time with me. Whenever we saw each other he had a couple of deep questions planned to ask about my life and hopes/dreams. Also sometimes he’d send me pictures of flowers just because. So it’s been consistently enjoyable with him
My current boyfriend surprised me one day by driving his truck in a field of grass, blasting this country song and dancing with me, twirled me around and everything as cars just drove past us. Idk he really got me with that
I’m dating a guy now who’s super romantic. He listens to things I say and remembers them long after I’ve forgotten. The other day I mentioned I was stressed about work and he had a bottle of my favorite wine and a dozen roses delivered to me the next day. He’s super sweet, and comes up with fun date ideas all the time. I’ve had a lot of great first dates and then it usually falls off after that, but he’s been consistent since day 1.
I got lucky on a dating app, and I found someone who I had instant chemistry with. We messaged for a few weeks before meeting, so by the time we went on our first date I was so nervous because they seemed so amazing. It turns out they were the kindest, most gentle and giving soul I have ever met in my life. I wasn’t looking for anything serious, and it all seemed to happen so quickly. But we fell in love! They gave me some of the best memories I have, and I will always treasure them.
A few years ago I was dating a guy, and I told him this one story about how I was sentimental as a child…every year for New Year’s Eve, I would feel bad for the year. Saying goodbye to it, everyone seeming so excited to end the year and say hello to the new, it made me just feel bad for the old year so I would collect things, put them in a box and preserve them. I collected weird stuff lol like a limb off the Christmas tree, pieces of wrapping paper, a box of Life Savors Storybook candy that Santa always brought. Then I would write a message saying something like, « Goodbye to (year), may your memory never fade! » Lol corny, ik. I would hide it under my bed, but then my mom would find it months later, lecture me on how weird I am, ask why I’m saving junk and make me throw it away. It always hurt so bad.
Anyway, after telling the guy this story it must have resonated with him bc months later, for Christmas, even though we’d never even mentioned this story again, he special ordered some Life Savor Storybook candy and wrote a little message inside saying, « May the memory never fade. »
I cried immediately! It was just so incredibly sweet that he PAID ATTENTION & REMEMBERED! lol take note, guys. This is what a lot of us want 🙂
I finally bought a canon camera, he was teaching me photography so we went to a nature reserve. We got to this lake with a bench. After taking pictures of birds on the water I sat and he was adjusting his camera, I didn’t know why. And then I turned and he had his camera pointed at me, taking pictures of me. I don’t know how to explain it, but it was really nice.
Last year I was really up to my neck in teaching full time and taking on a master’s whilst living abroad (bad set of choices on my part I know, so I did fix it!)
But, as I was talking of my overwhelming mental load to my friend who I’ve known for over 10 years he didn’t even hesitate to help.
Not even two days later he’d booked a flight to come and stay with me for a week (he was on holidays from work anyway) and he stayed in my home as I went to work.
He cooked me dinner, helped me get on top of my house chores, drew me baths and put my favourite music on and made sure that I had the support and company I needed. He didn’t expect anything, he didn’t even let me « take over » as I so often try to do.
I can’t thank him enough. He seen I needed help and he helped me, just like a good friend should.
Recently went on a first date with a guy where the conversation was amazing! I used to have awful social anxiety- it’s better now but dating makes me anxious still. Anyway he made me relax and I felt like I could chat to him really easily. He was so polite too.
First date with an Italian guy – went to a underground cocktail bar in London, little candles on the walls, lights dimmed down low and very romantic. Gave me compliments in Italian, we both chose a cocktail each to try. He said he picked one called “perfect storm” for us because I’m Irish and he’s Italian and we are both fiery. Chemistry was a lot. Second date we had a picnic all day (6 hours) in the sun looking over London and forgot where the time went. Third date we plan to go to the beach. I feel slightly obsessed even though it’s only been 2 dates. That’s what good chemistry does
I got one! I got my nails done and he noticed on the date (without any prompting from me). He asked me if he could open my coke can for me so I don’t ruin my nails! ❤️❤️❤️
He later on broke up with me, but he’s still my favorite date. Very gentlemanly.
I went on a date with guy and he held my hand while crossing a busy street in downtown. It was a cute gesture. I found him quite a gentleman and we are still in touch. I am single as I am starting my business so if he asks me to meet him I’ll surely meet him.
I met my ex boyfriend on bumble, he was very kind and playful.
We had fun doing activities out or just relaxing at home. During a lockdown we had a great time just playing card games.
When we first started dating we didn’t have sex for the first 8 or 10 dates and he never pressured me.
When we did have sex he was amazing! We both did the love languages test and he saw my results and really ran with it. Mine is acts of service. He would walk my dog, unstack my dishwasher while I was at work, help me make dinner, help with the dishes, do my laundry or clean my kitchen if I was vaccuming or something and buy me flowers constantly. We didn’t even live together so it was not his responsibility to do any of this.
Unfortunately things ended but it goes to show there are wonderful guys out there.
My ex and I met on an airplane! We sat next to each other & started chatting during the flight. Lots of other romantic things over the course of 3ish weeks before we realized we didn’t want to leave it at a summer fling. Long distance is tough & the relationship ran its course… but he’s a good person and I’m glad it happened when it did 🙂
A while back when I was at work, a guy came in and talked to me about making some soup thing when I was ringing him up. He was very friendly, but I didn’t think much of it. A few weeks later, a guy walks up to me and tells me the soup was good. The same guy! He flirted with me a little. Turns out he was 21 (I was 16, I don’t blame him for not knowing though since most people were in college at that place anyway) so I had to turn him down. My self esteem was through the roof for the next month. To this day he is literally the only guy that has ever hit on me.
This was my ex and it before we started dating, we were friends at the time. I always run in the morning outside, I find it gives me mental clarity to start the day but something bad happened and I just no longer felt safe doing it, so I stopped. He knew how much running meant to me, so he offered to run with me every morning at 5am, even though he had an incredibly busy and physical job, he started his day earlier to give me that. Looking back now I just think man, he really cared about me.
My most recent positive experience with a guy was this evening. Recently the person I’m dating and I have been talking on the phone each night before he goes to bed (we’re in different time zones). Today he helped me with some essays I’m working on.
Something that I can’t brag to my friends about (for obvious reasons) is before he went away, we had sex an average of 2-3 times per day for about four weeks. I’ve never had this much sex before and it’s highly unlikely that I ever will again, but it’s an impressive statistic that was fun to make happen.
I have a few: met all of them on dating sites a couple of years ago.
1. Him and I hit it off instantly, he asked me out within a week and had a really really nice dinner date, I didn’t think we would talk after that because I knew our schedules didn’t match for at least 3-4 more months. Decided to go with the flow, ended up dating for nearly 7 months, spilt up due to some personal reasons, but it was a great experience, he still checks in sometimes and so do I.
2. Matched with this guy in my hometown while I was in another city for uni, kept in touch for a few months until I went back home for winter break, had a really cool date; just sitting in the car with food and drinks watching the sunset. It’s been sometime and we still planning to meet again lmao (he’s busy with work as he owns a restaurant, and me being in a different city for the entire span of it—both of us ended up dating other people in between and we are single again) at this point I’ve developed a nice bond, we don’t talk everyday just check in sometimes and meet whenever we can.
3. One of the guys I met bumble who was really really cute, but I didn’t feel a romantic vibe while on the date but he was a really cool friend, I dreaded before telling him I wasn’t feeling it and would like to stay friends, he took it up gracefully and accepted it. Been friends ever since.
Dancing with my husband while it was raining and reggae was playing!
Small gestures but I went on a date with a guy recently and he asked if we were still on for that Saturday a few days before and he let me know he was on the way to the place we were meeting. While this may seem extremely small and the absolute bare minimum to some people, it was a nice change as I’m a pretty anxious person and since before I was always the one confirming the plans, doing all the communicating, etc. with other guys I met with before. Unfortunately I haven’t heard from him so I assumed he’s no longer interested but still. It was nice lol.
I had my first date with my current boyfriend a few days before my birthday, and he brought me a birthday present! I was so shocked and surprised because I don’t even really get presents from friends or family, usually just dinner from friends or some cash from my family! He gave me a candle and a rose quartz, and I guess the rose quartz worked!
I feel like I’ve been lucky to date a lot of gentlemen who paid, got me an Uber, were really respectful. I’ve had a few bad apples but far more that were really nice. One guy a total stranger met up with me on my birthday and he drove me around the city exploring and he got me food. it was fun and he didn’t even expect sex or anything. I think he wasn’t super into me lol but he was still so nice. The next day he went back to Israel so never talked to him again. Looking back now I realize that was pretty dangerous and stupid af of me
I met a guy on Bumble. We went out a few times and got along really well. We never did anything physical but just connected as humans. We decided after a few dates to go to Iceland together. The trip turned out to be completely platonic and a lot of fun. He was always a perfect gentleman. We don’t talk anymore but are friends on social media. It was a nice experience with a man that gifted me very fond memories.
The one who moved away… I went in a few dates with a chatty friendly guy. Heck, we both know it but didn’t say it, we were falling for each other but he had to move back home for a new job and that was further away that “pizza delivery waiting time”. So we didn’t try to make it work.
The second date though… He and I went to dinner and then the bookstore before we went to see a musical in the theater. It was so much fun! And the bookstore he told me is his usual 2nd date recommendation because you can find out a lot about a person by what they do in the book store. I agree with that.
I’ve had a lot of good experiences. My current knows I love books, so our second date was at a book store and then we got ice cream and talked by a River. A man burned into a wooden coin lyrics to Coldplay’s Yellow (a fav) with our horoscope signs. During the pandemic an ex and I would have tons of picnics when we first started dating. There’s a bar arcade out here that I had great dates at when I still drank prior to the pandemic. I’m a huge plant lady with rabbits so I’ve had men bring me fresh garden veggies for the rabbits and myself. I’ve been shown grace after a stressful work day that a sports bar during a game turned out to be too much for me sensory wise and we rescheduled. He was so thoughtful and understanding when dating. Which I think is the overall vibe that I’m mentioning that I’ve been blessed with and enjoyed.
A couple:
Met a guy, there was mutual attraction, I think we went on a couple of dates (this was a long time ago), and he told me in the most respectful way that I was too quiet and laid back for him. It was clear that there wasn’t anything wrong with me (or him), I just wasn’t who he was looking for.
Then, the second guy I dated after my divorce taught me what consent looks like. He helped me with being okay with saying no and not feel guilty about saying it.
On a first date once the guy came to pick me up and came to my front door with a rose. It was very sweet and romantic and set him apart from all the other guys I had first dates with. He even opened the car door for me and we had pizza and drinks and watched the baseball game. Best first date hands down
Guys some of us are really single…really!
1. An old fling has become one of my best friends in the world. He’s genuine, kind, and so caring. Don’t know what I’d do without him.
2. My ex was actually a really great guy, slightly emotionally unavailable but was so good to me.
3. This one time a guy didn’t kiss me on the first date because he said he didn’t want to risk my kissing him back out of fear. Granted this should be the standard but first time I’d ever heard it.
Not all men suck, a lot do, but not all of them.
A few years back, I was on a college exchange programme and didn’t know anyone in the town I was living in for a month. I spoke the language with pass-ability, but native language speakers really struggled with my accent.
I met a guy on tinder who lived a town away, we went on a date and he never once made me feel terrible for my bad language skills. The month I lived there he ushered my friends and I around, showing us new places, driving me home after the bus stopped running (and also having some excellent sex). It was the perfect summer fling.
I’m now in a great relationship with an excellent man, but gosh dang that month was my ultimate hot girl summer
i’ll get back to you on that
My guy friend who’s not my boyfriend (yet) went stargazing with me last night and we watched the stars and talked for hours. We leaned on each other and held hands. Everything was perfect. He is such a good listener and he told me that he loves to make me laugh and smile.
I would like to know what he did to sweep you off your feet. What did he say on the first ask for a date.
Currently seeing someone amazing. He makes me laugh, dependable, we talk every day, he’s honest, considerate, is genuinely into me and has no problem letting his feelings be known