Dating : Should it always be « effortless » with the right person?
(30M) My relationship just ended with a girl I’ve been seeing for a few months. Things seemed promising. We had a lot of great dates, and there was a connection there, but occasionally some of our dates would start with a sort of tension. We always broke through the tension, though, and the dates would end well.
When we had our conversation about calling it off, this « tension » issue came up as the main reason we weren’t progressing. We both couldn’t put our finger on where it was coming from.
If you are with the right person, should every interaction feel effortless?
Also, how do you go about analyzing this type of situation to figure out if it’s purely an issue of incompatibility or more to do with a personal flaw of your own that, if improved, would have made the difference?
A bit heartbroken but trying to learn from the experience. It’s difficult when you feel like there are so many great moments that should signal compatibility, but there is some underlying issue and you both have no idea what the root cause is.