Dating : SIMP life. How do I avoid it?
I feel sad and pathetic for even admitting it but here goes.
30/m – I’m shit with women. Always have been. I dunno why but I find myself falling for people if I spend enough time with them, usually never with the intention of taking things further but occasionally it will develop.
Anyways been getting close with this girl at work, she seems the perfect match, loves doing fuck all, cars, weed but no drinking, she’s pretty too. Anyways I was getting signals for a while but ignored because she’d just come out of a relationship. 3months on I renage on my decision, tell her how I feel, she isn’t ready « right now » we still chill as friends and go on break together, she still flirts I don’t flirt back. Anyways she asks me to come over tonight for Chinese food, I sack off the gym and tell her I’ll be 45mins, just enough time to shit shower shave. I get a msg before I leave, « can you grab some cat food » no problem. I stop at the shop 5mins from her house to get cat food, get a msg in the shop, she’s in a bad mood and too stressed had a horrible day and she cancels. I say « ok no prob », twice (she kept apologising). I didn’t put any kisses on the end of my msgs coz i was actually quite annoyed (she isnt my gf, she doesnt owe me anything and me her) so she send me a pic of her semi nude, booty looking terrific. I’m conflicted, I do want her, she knows it and this pic has me rock hard but my head won’t shut up and is thinking she’s a manipulative cow for doing that. I’m yet to reply and she’s already sent a « I only sent that to apologise lol » msg.
What would you guys do?
My head says fuck that nonsense stop being a simp. You 30, move on
My heart says, she’s actually amazing and your lifestyles gel well, better than any previous S.O. be honest about being irked by her actions.
My dick says complement her next time we might get more out of it. Pretend it’s no biggie and keep doing nice shit, were almost there.
This all happened 20mins ago so might not be thinking too clear, need time to reflect. All advice appreciated!
First, jerk off. You need that post nut clarity.
Second, you know what to do.
Its all looks man. she either wants you or she doesnt there is nothing you can do
Is she bi polar?
Was the cat food good at least?
Seriously though, 5 minutes from her house I would have just told her I’m at least dropping off the cat food. I’d even consider pretending I didn’t see the text if I was that close haha
Anyway, you make it sound like she constantly drags you around and you’re tired of it, but you only really gave the one example of her canceling. Has she invited you over before? If not, it sounds like she just got nervous – especially with the sexy apology picture.