Dating : So, I’m kinda dating a woman who is 10 years older than me (Me: m21, her: f31). What should I do, where should I go with this?
Hey guys. So I’m saying « kinda » because its nothing big at the moment- we’ve been on a couple simple dates, like lunch, etc. . We hang out when our work schedules allow it, and when we’re not in person we text every day. There’s also been a good bit of flirting from both sides.
She’s a great person. She’s funny, interesting, humble, and just an all around kind-hearted person, which are traits that seemed hard to come by when i was looking in my own age group. She’s quite attractive too- I honestly thought she was around 23-24 when i first met her, i was a little surprised to learn she was in fact 31. Despite the age gap, we do have alot in common. I guess we’re kind of both at the same place in life too- we both still live with our parents, and work basic minimum wage jobs. She lives with hers again because she fell on hard times a couple of years back. I guess in a way, we’re both trying to find our place in the world still, even though she is significantly older. My mom, well, isn’t too happy that a 31 y/o woman is « after her 21 y/o boy » but, yknow, that happens with age gaps. Her mom is in a similar position, although according to my date, her mom likes me so far, but is also skeptical about the age thing.
Alright alright ill get to the point. She seems to be very interested in me, and honestly, I’ve been growing more and more interested in her. My dad tells me that she seems to be waiting for me to make a move, and I kinda want to. I want to take this further, but, I’ll admit, I’m also kind of scared about the age thing. I guess I find her somewhat intimidating- obviously, she’s a fair bit wiser and more experienced than i am. Also, I fear that because of the age gap, things might not work out in the long run. Or, maybe I’m just overthinking.
So, what do you guys think I should do? I’m in a bit of a pickle here. If I were to try to move things further, how should I go about it? I know it sounds a bit weird for a 21 y/o guy to be dating a 31 y/o woman, but yknow, things happen i guess lol