Dating : So… uhm, how do I attract girls?
I’m… well, a virgin. And a really lonely boi.
I’m a submissive 17-year-old, and I’m mostly interested in girls who are older than I am. I’m not really picky tho.
I just want to have some advice on how to be attractive to girls in a kinda subby sorta way. Sex is secondary, I just want a GF to cuddle with.
Got any advice?
I also might need some advice on dating if your other advice is successful, but I guess that stuff has already been asked like a million times on here.
Sorry if this is really cringey or whiny.
Edit: This was probably a mistake to post, since the common consensus seems to be that I’m pretty much undateable (and, to be fair, I probably am), but I’m going to keep this up, since I don’t really have any self-esteem left for you guys to destroy.
At 17 you need to only be dating your age and younger unless you want someone to get in trouble. Anyone over 18 should not date you. Stop using words like submissive and boi. I think you need to focus on working on being more confident and assertive. Make sure you have good hygiene, speak proper English, and show respect for women.
Don’t spell boy as boi. That will definitely help. It’s not an attractive thing to a woman. Be a man.
Find girls with common interests and ask them out. See what happens when you hang out. Be kind, be yourself, and talk honestly, because it’s okay to be shy and inexperienced.
Online dating helped me so much. Set up a profile.
Get confident in yourself. Work out, try a new hairstyle, get new hobbies, but always do it for you to feel better, not other people.
You’ll want to learn how to identify women who are predominantly masculine (assertive, confident, decisive etc). They’ll be a perfect match for your feminine core.
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Good luck.
I’ll be honest with you… Most women do not like submissive guys. They like the exact opposite. Also, you’re 17. I personally didn’t have any luck with women till 19. I would definitely focus on improving your confidence as much as possible.
Practice. Makes. Perfect.
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give up the « I just wanna cuddle ». I don’t believe you, tbh. Theres nothing wrong with saying you want to have sex.
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« I just…I just…I guess…. » – Give that up too. Youre being dismissive of your self and your wants. Youre unsure of yourself.
Nobody is undateable. Your self-esteem is.
So start doing whatever it takes to feel better about yourself. go to the gym, read books, take dancing lessons, approach/say hello to women on the street, etc etc. Whatever It takes for you to start feeling better about yourself, start doing that.
Would tinder be a possible solution for your requests?