Dating : Take a trip to see her or is she not interested?
I met this girl a few months ago while in another country for work. We hit it off and hung out a lot in the last 2 weeks of my trip. Told her I’d be back in June and we’ve been texting for the past 3 months.
It’s July now and that trip keeps getting delayed. In the past few weeks she’s been more distant and less responsive. She’s going on her own trip soon and I’m afraid if I don’t see her before then things between us will definitely flame out.
I’m thinking to go visit on my own just to see her. But I’m worried something’s changed and she’s just not interested. Has she met someone? Is it because I didn’t go back when I said I would?
I really don’t like the idea of not trying though…
What do you think?
Speaking from my own experience, she may be going on the defensive. If I was in her shoes, I think I may be starting to lose interest because I want to avoid getting hurt. If you feel that you would regret not trying, I’d say go for it. You could even test the waters by telling her you’re wanting to see her, but you have to follow through. Again, putting myself in her shoes, if you’re doing something like this, you have to commit to it, if you don’t, I’m just going assume that you’re not a person of your word (if that makes sense). I would say something like “I would really like to make a trip specifically to see you, what do you think of these dates?” Or “what dates would work best for us to see each other?”
I think giving her the days you would come allows you to test waters the best. Depending on her answer, you’ll know her willingness to see you/make time to spend with you.
In my opinion, this is way too tough to start anything serious. If you want to meet her, make that crystal CLEAR.
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& if you end up meeting, you end up meeting. If not, don’t close yourself up and only focus on her. If you’re worried somethings changed, you cannot blame her. This meetup is becoming more and more unrealistic, the more you delay.
The holiday romance has worn off. Take the hint and move in.
I believe that long-distance relationships don’t work. That’s a hell of a tough thing to do, especially when you hardly even know this person.
she pretty but she ain’t important and she damn sure ain’t special. if you go out there just to see her and she clearly ain’t interested I will hate you more than you will hate yourself when you realize the inevitable