Dating : Texting, clinginess, and setting expectations?
I’m looking for advice on how to handle this situation.
After my ex and I broke up in April, I took a hiatus from dating. I had a lot going on with my career and part-time job, so I wanted to focus on that and my hobbies and friends.
However, recently I met someone who I thought was interesting and cute and he expressed interest right away. We have been on a few dates and they have gone well. Except, damn, this dude got intense quick!
He seems to be big into texting and will send a couple in a row if I don’t respond e.g. sends a goodnight text (did not respond to) and then the next morning will send a good morning text along with something about his day. I like him, but this has been turning me off. I’ve been trying to put more time in between responses to see if he gets the hint but it hasn’t been successful.
He also seems keen on making plans for later on this summer, even though we only have been dating and seeing each other for a couple weeks.
I don’t know if I should try to have a conversation about this and address the fact that I don’t want to be texting every day. And what to say that is sensitive and not rude? Or if I should chalk this up to an incompatibility and call it quits now. Input is appreciated. Also…is this just how a lot of people are now?
I’m the kind of guy who likes to text someone more the more I like them, so you saying that you’re intentionally avoiding texting him to try and send signals gives me anxiety. Imo you should just be up forward and honest instead of playing games.
If you like him, but it makes you uncomfortable have a conversation about it.
Don’t just throw away something because a conversation is a risk. But, if that’s just part of the problem then maybe consider ending it.
No put boundaries up
Are you certain your the only one he is playing those text with
Could be a player sadly
So
U take the charge now