Dating : The feeling of being alone
I’m 29. Will be 30 this year. I don’t know why but what I am doing isn’t working. Most of it I do out of fear I think. All the messaging girls on Facebook I hardly know or have never met, I’m afraid it will catch up to me and make me look foolish.
I’m an attractive guy I know that. I do have women who lust after me but the thing about those women is they have kids already and that’s not something I want, I’d like to have our first child together whoever that girl is.
The last girl I had a crush on, she cut my hair last week and I asked her out afterwards, her response was that she was friends with a girl I had been on a couple dates with, I explained to her that me and her friend had no connection so I stopped dating her, we never even had sex and I didn’t do anything shitty, I was a gentleman.
Any advice?
You’re doing it all wrong…..
You’re messaging random girls on Facebook? Do you realize how low value that makes you? You’re basically a fan and treating these girls like celebrities.
Single mothers are the clearance bin of the dating world. If that’s all you’re getting then you’re just Mr. Good enough.
This tells me you’re probably a well meaning square guy. In other words boring to most women but good for settling with.
First thing I’d reccomend is the following
1. Write a first of things you want in a woman.
2. Honestly access yourself
3. Now adjust that list
4. Figure out where those women on your lost hang out
5. Go mingle and meet them