Dating : There is no chance for me
I have an ok face, and I’m skinny, as in scrawny. My ok face and the fact some women have a skinny guy fetish is the only reason I’ve ever had success. I’ve been cheated on, left for someone else, used for sex after being showered with compliments then dumped. It always ends with me heart broken, humiliated, and regretful, and the other person happy with the guy they wanted to be with first. There are men on here who are muscular, confident, have everything going for them, but still can’t find anyone. What hope do I have? I honestly just wish sometimes women would just admit I’m not wanted in the market, will never be, and only good for stopping her from being lonely until the guy she prefers comes along.
The thing about being scrawny is that you’re a blank canvas. You can’t get taller if you’re short, but if you’re scrawny you can change that with some work. You don’t even have to get mega built. Just start doing some light workouts and build some definition. You’ll feel better about yourself too.
Yo choose another type of woman
You need to stop talking like that. If you just change the words that you say, whether they are in your mind is a different story, you will notice a huge jump in confidence and positivity, which women love. I was very cynical and reactive to the world, I worked hard with meditation and going up to a lot of girls. I got rejected so much and women always thought I was gay, it was really frustrating but I got through it and now am dating some of the most beautiful girls in hollywood.
You can change, i promise. People will tell you to be more confident, but that is terrible advice; way too vague. How can you practically be confident? Confidence is usually gotten through experience, well how do you get experience? You actually need to put in the work. So, in order to be confident you will have to talk to strangers or go to the gym, eat well, meditate, read self-help books, etc. This is the experience that will create your confidence, it won’t happen overnight .Like all things great in the world, it takes time. You will not regret going through the hardship at all.
You may be reading this like yeah yeah yeah, sounds great, im going back to playing video games. I urge you to try something small this week. Just start saying hi to the cashier at your local grocery store, someone who is paid to be friendly. This will slowly open you up. Instead of saying hi to a beautiful girl when you may not be ready, start small and start forming habits.
Eat protein..lift weights.
You sound like me in my teens lol
So get muscular and work on your confidence. That stuff won’t actually fix the world around you it’s all within and blah blah but there are some pretty sure ways of increasing your chance with women and they’re a good start.
Might seem daunting at first but honestly everyone who does it had a first day, may as well make yours today right?
You can’t just look at your flaws as reason women don’t want you. You have to look at your positives as reasons women *do* want you.
I used to be really self conscious about my mental health. I’m kind of an introvert and at one point I just stopped going outside because I felt like I wasn’t worth anyone’s time since I was awkward and didn’t have the energy to do anything fun.
The best advice I ever got was from a guy who hit my mom’s car while I was driving a couple weeks ago. I talked about my ongoing battle with depression and anxiety, and he made the point that if you hate yourself it means you’ve got a good heart. It means you want to be kind to the world and can’t quite figure out how to do that.
People are gonna come along and fuck your shit up big time. They’ll use you, get confused, fall in and out of love, and it hurts. But I promise how you look isn’t nearly the most important thing. Sure a cute guy can steal a girl from you, but that just means she’s shallow and wasn’t worth your time to begin with, and all that desperation in your heart is going to lead you to people like that and it’s going to lead you to be hurt you worse. Ask yourself what you have to offer and bring it to people. If they choose not to have it from you then it’s their loss.
Probably, you should just do something else. Try being with men instead?