Dating : Thoughts on marriage
I am not interested in marriage. Never once wanted it. My parent however is vey adamant about it. I’ve told him that I just don’t believe in it and that it holds no meaning to me and any meaning it does hold is all negative. He told me if it means nothing to me that I would just do it. For him he has to get married and divorce is not an option. To me that sounds like being a prisoner. I’ve broken up with him or tried to anyway because we want different things but he is set on spending the rest of his life with me.
I just don’t see the point in it. Weddings are a scam that will set you back an entire year’s salary, diamonds are worthless and mined with child slave labor, if you’re an antinatalist who doesn’t want to force another human being into the world because you can’t afford them or make time to raise them and no one’s doing anything to stop the impending climatic disaster caused by capitalism, there aren’t any tax benefits to it. It’s not that I wouldn’t want to find a partner who I could plausibly share a life with, but the whole institution of marriage itself is really just poison.
Marriage isn’t worth it today because so many people don’t take it seriously anymore. Over 60% of marriages end in divorce, a much greater number than it was 50+ years ago. I wouldn’t get married these days and I don’t plan to. If your partner wants marriage and you don’t, you guys need to end
So he’s not listening to your desires/needs, he’s bulldozing over your own life plan, and doesn’t « let » you break up with him?
Listen, NO ONE can force you to stay with them. Get gone and save yourself some stress and heartache.
I have been married. It’s nothing more than a cheap piece of paper. Yes, it affords you certain things, but ultimately it does nothing to change the relationship. Getting married will not save a failing relationship, it doesn’t make your relationship more serious, and it certainly should not be done to please others.
Should I ever marry again, it will be for beneficial reasons only. Things that benefit both of us, not just me.
Leave him now, he sounds uncomfortably clingy!!!
Wow, that poor guy. If you don’t want to get married, go send him some vids from Better Batchelor. Show your guy that there is basically nothing but a total loss if you both get divorced and 60% of divorced men end up committing suicide and you actually love him so much that you don’t want to put him through that.
I think that would help him see things clearly. Also let him know that you’re not leaving him, you just don’t want the official marriage thing.