Dating : tinder isn’t for dating anymore
i’m so frustrated with tinder. i want to go on a real date with a guy, none of that hook up shit. frustrates the shit out of me when i’m talking to a guy who seems nice and is good looking only for him to ask if i prefer condoms or not.
i’m 19 year old virgin female, i’m not trying to waste my first time on a random guy. guess i’ll be waiting a little while longer for a relationship 🤣
UPDATE: i’d like to point out that i’m not really interested in dating, i’m only on dating apps cause i’m bored, and usually only actively swipe around when i’m high and bored.
also the reason i don’t get many matches on bumble etc etc is because most of the guys on those apps are very unattractive and it not gonna force myself to talk to a guy i have no actual interest in
Never was to begin with
It’s a bit more difficult to get an actual relationship in early age of adulthood. You’re at the age of hookups, if you want to date for more than a hookup you might be better off doing that in person in an activity you like to bond over together.
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Apps aren’t the best with your given age.
There are plenty of other apps that are more geared toward dating. I’d try one of those.
Welcome to the new world where it’s all about the hook up no responsibilities empty promises and seeing how many people you can fuck with their feelings before ghosting on them. Welcome to the world where everyone wants respect no one wants to show it.
I’ve had two serious relationships from tinder but it definitely doesn’t seem to be like that anymore for me either. I use bumble and hinge since you can say what you’re looking for.
Tinder is whatever you want it to be as long as you explicitly say in your profile what you are looking for. Keep in mind however that if you contribute to the 80/20 rule (if you are part of the 80% of women who swipe on the top 20% of men), you will come across lots of guys who have tons of options and thus will treat you as an option, or will just try to hookup. Is there a chance one of them will want something serious? Of course, but you’ll have to get thicker skin and make your way through the douchebags until you find that one, unless you give a chance to guys outside that 20% and see what they are looking for.
You’ll probably have a better shot at meeting someone in real life anyway, especially at your age when people are mostly looking for « fun ».
Try Bumble
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I just ask people out in real life. Plus, the people on Tinder have a higher chance of being unstable or crazy.
Tinder is a hookup app that wants to be seen as legit so it can be more profitable, but my experience with it is that its a hookup app and the women on it only want to have meaningless casual sex.
Basically, people pay Tinder to find them sex. That’s the Tinder business model.
Online dating isn’t for everyone. And Tinder have been and always will be known for being the hook up app.
But I feel the same frustration towards people like you who go on Tinder but still looking for something serious, knowing it’s mainly (unofficially) for more causal flings. And then blame the app or its main users for your failure in finding what you’re looking for. Sure people find relationships on tinder, as they do in the most unexpected places anywhere else in the world.
But I dont want to waste my time on someone like that when that’s not what I or the majority of people are there for. I really would like tinder to make another category for those who is looking for a relationship. That way people don’t end up wasting each others time. Would be better for everyone.
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What are you complaining about? Tinder is a hook-up app. Why did you create a Tinder profile with no intention of hooking up?
If you’re in Florida, let me take you out. Just us, conversation, food, maybe a movie if you’re down
Same here. I havent even started a tinder because Idk how to take good pics as a guy. I’ve heard/seen guys take shirtless pics in the bathroom but that comes off as douchey. Truth is, idk what girls want. On top of that, I got anxiety about a lot of stuff.
i dont waste my time with tinder. why dont use bumble or coffee meets bagel or hinge. tinder is garbage
Might as well get it on with a random guy so when you find a guy you actually like, you won’t lose him by being inexperienced in bed.