Dating : Tired of getting rejected
I’m a 30 years old male PhD student living in a small college town with a pretty shallow dating pool. Been single for the last two years and am somewhat successful with matches on online dating apps, I go on a first date every 2-3 weeks despite being 5’5” and am trying to make up for it by being very fit. Sadly, nothing ever sticks past the first date. The last five women I went on a date with all said that they’d like to have me as a friend, despite having interesting and fun dates, which is about as cliche as it can get. I actually asked a couple of them, in a non-confrontational way, what made them decide that, as this was starting to worry me. One said she didn’t feel a spark. The other said that she feels stupid when talking with me, not because of me trying to make her feel that way but just because I’m so sharp.
This string of rejections made me delete all my dating apps and suspend all the accounts. All these rejections are just mentally taxing and I don’t see anything I can change about myself that will help me find a relationship. I may rejoin the game in a couple of months but for now I’m going to focus on my research, diet and hobbies. End rant.