Dating : Too quick to dump and now harder to find someone.
From the advice that seem to be coming from here. People are telling other people to dump each other for the smallest thing. Yes you should not be with someone that does not move you. But these opportunities will only decrease when you age. Look at the question from a 20 year old. Minor things like should i dump him because no furniture. Then you have older people asking advice on major issues that you even question why they are even asking unless there not much out there to get. Someone said this on Reddit and I should follow up on it. They say you will meet only so much people in a life time. If you keep chasing something it could not be there.
People today can’t deal with problems so the solution is to run away. And you are right that options slim as you get older and most likely you have already crossed their path before and neither is impressed with each other. You need to guard your reputation as you get older.
If there are red flags in the relationship then yes…. Gtfo now.
If a woman is on here complaining that her bf pushed her chair out of the way aggresively because she was in his way then proceeded to badger her in the restaurant about moving for him, huge red flag. Get out now before his tper with you escalates. (Recent reddit example, but you get the point )
It’s true that everyone has different red flags, and that people can run away since there are so « many » options out there. I’ve personally have felt more alone being with someone that isn’t right, over being by myself. Along with confirmation biases, if they come here looking for the validity of their reason that’s the answer they will latch onto.
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All in all, yes people might run away for little things. Yes people in general need to talk more about their feelings and how they feel. As for someone not being there, that depends on your location/population pool and if you’ve giving up trying to find someone.
i’d rather be single than in an abusive red flaggy relationship though.
Younger people have time and options on their side. They also generally don’t have a good sense of what’s actually important to them vs what’s meaningless.
> But these opportunities will only decrease when you age
I don’t know, as a guy who isn’t that attractive, I feel like my chances can only increase.
> People are telling other people to dump each other for the smallest thing.
Well people are often complaining about some fundamental mismatch that may seem small ie « I want sex 6-7 times a week and they want sex once a week » but the reality his they are huge problems down the road.
Well to be honest, I think it’s weird if you visit someone at their home and it doesn’t have basic furniture like a bed and table and chairs at least.
Most rentals come furnished so even renting doesn’t give the excuse not to have those things.