Dating : trouble with possible gf friends
So i (16m) and a girl (16f) i’ve been talking to for a while get along very well and we’ve told eachother we like eachother and we’ve kissed and currently she’s at a cottage with her friends and i was planning on asking to make things official when she got back. Basically a few months back we were watching a movie over facetime and she made a comment about all men being trash and such which i didn’t like because i find it bad to generalize a whole group and she had said men are disgusting so does that make me disgusting? but anyway i told her the next day how i didn’t like it and how it’s not good to generalize and she apologized and everything was fine. fast forward to last night her and her friends had been drinking and i get a call from her and we start talking. then her friend comes in the room and we start talking and just being kind to eachother and everything’s normal. out of nowhere she makes a comment about how all men are trash and i say to her that it’s not good to generalize and then she says it’s based on her experience so she can. I didn’t like that she said this at all but i don’t want to argue or anything especially while she’s drunk so i left it and just continued in as normal. Am i wrong for not liking this? I feel like if i said all women are disgusting/ trash t would be very sexist and wrong so wouldn’t it be the same for men? anyway let me know what you think and if i’m not wrong what i should do.
tldr; i don’t like what my crush and her friends say about men and am not sure what to do
It’s just possible that whatever way you start explaining this to her, she would just overreact and you guys would end up arguing.
There are really only two possibilities. She really had very bad experiences with men in the past, then in that case just change her mind with your actions. Be good to her and she would definitely stop bringing it up and even after all that if she keeps saying things like that then you’re better off with a girl with a more mature mind.
You’re right IMO. What you’re dealing with is people who have gone so far they are what they are fighting or they are just upset about there experiences and are just saying that but either way they are saying is sexist. At your age I’d just move on
Had an ex, even when we were dating, would rant about how all men suck. When I got a job as a firefighter, she would tell me how “toxically masculine” the environment was, even though I worked with women firefighters and has never worked around a field like that…
You can never win an argument with people like this. It has to do with age and maturity and most girls that say things like this are within the age of 16-20. If it bothers you this much, it’d be time to find someone else. You guys are both young, don’t stress about getting into a relationship.