Dating : What is Reddits problem?😅
Why do so many people on here have a problem with someone both knowing and saying they are attractive while asking for dating advice? Looks play a huge part in getting good feedback in the dating department. Its as if a person says they are attractive, immediately means they arent and are just deluded. Now…. That makes no logical sense for that to be the immediate assumption and only assumption, as if attractive people are simply non-existant. Lol. I meannnn its the same thing as knowing and saying you have above average intelligence. Does that make you deluded?
dont take it to heart, i havent been on reddit very long but…there are some really ignorant dumb people on here that dont know hardly anything. even worse is (they only know what they know) and thats the only advice anyone can ever give.
Huh?
Whether someone is « right or wrong » about such things (putting aside the fact that things like attractiveness are subjective), it’s still generally seen as pretentious, pompous, etc. to *self-report* them. It’s the old saying that « if you *have* to say it, maybe it’s not so true » (Or from Game of Thrones: « Any man who must say *I am the king* is no true king. »).
Another part of this is that a lot people on these threads tend to describe themselves as « *not* ugly » or whatever instead of attractive, which isn’t saying much. A lot of men in particular tend to list off all their « great qualities » that are just average, unremarkable stuff (« I look *decent enough*, I have a job, my own place, *and* a car too! »). It’s not *untrue*, and they aren’t deluded for thinking they have those qualities, but they *do* over-estimate/exaggerate how big of deal that they are.
What kind of advice do you expect from obscure 15 year old girls that rarely go outside?
As it happens, above average IQ is a turn off for women, odd i know… just how it is..
Just because someone says they are attractive, does not mean they are to others and vice versa. You could think you are a 6, but to a few others you are a 8. It’s relative (eye of the beholder). Dating can be tough regardless of attraction level.