Dating : What to do if you seriously like a girl and she is in a non-serious relationship with someone?
I’m Male, 22. The girl: 23 and the guy she is with: 21.
We are taking a course together in our university for last 2 months. She has showed interest on me from the beginning. My two close friends think that she has a crush on me. I started to sit beside her and talked and kept contact on Facebook everyday for 2 weeks. (once or twice she chose the seat beside me). I showed our text conversation to my female friends and they also think she is into me and I should make a move.
So, I made a move and asked her to hangout with me. I suggested to go to a movie. Then she said some of her friends also wants to join (Those friends are not her close friends, just some random classmates from our course).
After this it started to bug me and I tried to dig deeper. I asked a common friend of ours about her (that friend knows her a little bit well). The friend told me that she is dating a guy for about one or two months. They are not in a serious relationship (kinda hookup type).
At this point what should I do? Will it be ethical if I don’t backoff now even after knowing that she is with someone else?
I really like this girl, she is the girl of my dreams, if it is not unethical to try at this point, how should I handle this?
You flirt with her. Her response will tell you all you need to know.
I wouldn’t really that care. Even if she really is in relationship (you don’t know, it’s just hearsay), it’s not like girl is that guy property. If her relationship with that guy is serious, she will just decline your offer. You wouldn’t « steal » her, she would just decide what will be better for her.
> I suggested to go to a movie
Going to a movie is bad idea for first date, maybe even for first month of dating – too much time wasted on sitting quiet in dark place. Ask her out for coffee or think about other idea that would help you to get to know each other.
> At this point what should I do?
Do you really want to be with a person who happily strings people along while dating another?
Shes no good chief. She will do to you what shes doing to him. Thats why you dont pursue these types of people.