Dating : What’s it like dating older men?
I’m interning as a physical therapy aid and have been dealing with male patients on the older side working 10 hour shifts. So encountering these men has been the best and only form of action I’ve been getting as of current ever since May. I’ve been assisting men above 30 and find myself wanting them to tell me about their boating, the books theyve read, and how they got injured. I love it when they tell me about their jobs and what they did when they were younger. I also wonder if they find me attractive even though I’m 22 and on the younger side. I find my inner excitement in them and then get disappointed when I see the ring on their fingers. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m going through a dry spell that I’m feeling like this or if it’s because I’m genuinely attracted to older men. The oldest guy I’ve dated was 32 and it was the best thing ever. Has anyone dated older and found it better? I think i want to try it.
Edit: I’m not interested in screwing my clients or flirting with them. I mean genuinely, what is it like dating an older man? And I mean like genuine dating where the sex part comes later. I can only have sex if there’s mental stimulation first and if I like the person.
Do not fuck married men! If he’s single, go for it. But dont be an asshole and flirt with commited men.
The biggest turnoff when dating substantially younger is the *drama*.
At 34, I find 27-28 the bare minimum at which a girl has matured into a woman enough to hold an intelligent conversation, not be swayed by her ditz friends, and generally contribute something to the relationship besides easy sex.
Below that, it’s like they’ve never left middle school.
It would be very, very weird for a straight man of any age to NOT be attracted to a young woman assisting him with physical therapy.
I’m 30 and my bf is 50 and we have been dating for 2 years. It is the best relationship I’ve ever had. With older men, they’re already established, stable and know what they want. There are no games and everything is straight to the point. With his life experiences, he definitely knows how to take care of a woman. He’s very romantic and loving and treats me really well. He’s a real gentleman and I honestly never thought love would be this amazing.
Prior to dating him, I was with someone my age for 9 years that went nowhere. My ex wasn’t mature enough to settle and he barely even knew what he wanted. I was tired of it and I am so much happier with my man now.
However, I was already 28 when I met my bf and I was mature enough and knew what I wanted. Being in your early 20s is a different matter because you’re still figuring yourself out and may not be mature enough to be with someone much older.
Anyone who 30 and older trying to hang out with younger kids tends to be immature and childish. I don’t trust anyone who around this group age who wants to sleep around with a 22-year-old and I’m around your age too.
Just gonna point out… dont fuck your clients.
Sex and work shouldnt really cross over unless you’re a prostitute, stripper or masseuse who gives happy endings…
To clarify, if you’re get along with one of these men dont start screwing them until their therapy is complete, especially since you’re an intern and you should be wanting to make a good impression… and most employers wouldn’t consider that a good impression.
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Also as a side note, the largest age gap I’ve gone with was 8 years, 30 and 22. It was fun and all but it didnt last as long as my other relationships because she was at a different point in her life. Unless you’re in a place that’s drastically different from your average 20-22 year old you’ll probably find your relationships with much older men dont last as long due to personality differences.
Not saying it’s not worth a try though.
Im 31 and tried dating a 21 year old. Yea ill never try that again. Age gap like that is too much with different points in life.
It very much depends from man to man. One thing to keep in the back of your mind is that when a man goes for a very young woman (early 20) with little relationship experience, it might be because he’s not a decent man and can’t get more experienced women to date him.
When I was 21, I started a relationship with someone 22 years older. Been with him for 5 years but it was a very toxic and unhealthy relationship.
Now I’m again with a 40 something man (and the age gap is much more acceptable now although still more than 10 years gap) and it is the most amazing and healthy relationship I’ve ever been in. Our communication is strong, we have so much depth in the relationship and can talk about so many topics. He is intelligent, I learn a lot from him, he treats me as his equal, most amazing sex ever. He makes me feel like the most special and amazing woman on earth.
So my current boyfriend and my ex boyfriend were practically the same age when I met them but how they treat me is a massive difference..
So it depends from person to person. But I do tend to date older men and prefer this because in general they are more caring, have more to talk about and have higher emotional intelligence. But this definitely does not apply to all ‘older’ men.