Dating : What’s the deal with men (and women) not being able to own up to breadcrumbing?
Seriously, what’s up with guys that text a woman and flirt her up on the daily, only to never make plans to meet her again?
This happens even with guys I go out with multiple times, not just on one date. I’ll even ask upfront if the guy is still interested and he’ll respond saying that he is. We’ll usually schedule another date immediately after I ask, have what seems like a good time, and then… Pretty much nothing but meaningless daily texts and half-naked/naked photos from the guy until I get bored of him and move on to someone else.
It seems to be a common thing thing so I’m assuming the guy just comes up with a BS response to keep me on the line. I’m pretty sure this is the very definition of breadcrumbing but even when I call a dude out on it specifically, he’ll swear that’s not his intention. But… What tf, if you’re interested in someone, you make the time to see them, right?
I’m sure men aren’t the only ones that do this but I just don’t understand the point. If you’re not interested, why not just ghost? I don’t get the daily texting and pretending to care angle. It’s got to be exhausting and I feel like it’s a waste of my time and his – when we could both use that time better by moving on to someone else.
I have thought that maybe it’s me. Maybe I should be putting out more of an effort and initiating meeting up more? I have tried before and make comments and inquiries like « so when am I going to see you again ». Those often go ignored and, again, it’s not until I ask if the guy is still interested that he makes an effort to actually see me again. It’s frustrating and annoying.
What are your thoughts on this type of behavior?