Dating : Where is everyone?
Anyone else have the problem where you get out of college, get a good job close to home, and suddenly you are the only person your age in 400 square miles?
I have a strong friend group. Nearly all married, many starting to have kids….And that’s it, there are no more single girls. There’s an awful lot of teens and boomers, but I’m the only 30 year old in my entire town. Not exagerating. Presumably because there are few jobs…
If I want a gf it means I have to leave for a city (which I abhor and could never afford). One friend of mine had to maintain a long distance (10.5 hr drive) relationship for 3 years before they got married because there are just no young people in our town, women especially. I cannot do long distance. No chance in hell.
I suppose I have two options. Die sad and single in a beautiful place, or die broke and miserable (but hopefully married) in a city.
Anyone unravelled this paradox yet?
Ya it’s called move to the city and get a better job. City unless it’s NYC are relatively manageable if your working somewhere that’s better then a fast food joint.
There are single girls where I live but it seems like they all want to play games and never commit. Plus my friends and everyone else around my age is getting married or into relationships, it would be nice if the same happened to me.
First off – relax. Breath.
2nd – think more about your options. You could move anywhere. A medium sized affordable city for ex.
3rd – you never know who might show up in your town. So keep looking where you are for the time being. Have patience
People are really being jerks.
I think most guys go through this. The other problem is that you aren’t really ripe right out of college, girls don’t want to be dating the youngest guy in the office, even girls your age. I’m only like half an hour from the nearest city, so I spend a lot of time there even though I don’t live there. Go to coffee shops, go to art museums, go to baseball games, go to bars if that’s your thing. Otherwise, like other people have said, move. Different cities have different traits, you should be able to find something you like.
There is no unraveling this because it’s not confusing… You either move or you don’t. You’re just expecting someone on the internet to change things in life so your choice is easier. Realistically I think your problem is that you complain too much. That’s a super big turn off my dude
Edit: you want to hear people’s thoughts and then cry when it’s not what you want to hear… yeah bro your whiny as shit to.
>Anyone unravelled this paradox yet?
Yes. I nutted the fuck up, admitted that I was wrong and not special, and I moved to a city to join the real world and stop being a miserable sad sack
Yup, definitely everyone else’s fault…not yours…not yours… ಥ_ಥ