Dating : Why do girls want guys to open up but won’t do the same?
It seems like some girls expect me to just come out and vomit all my feelings on to them. This means my hopes and dreams, my regrets, what I’m afraid of etc. Essentially they want me to become vulnerable to them but these are also girls I barely know. We haven’t hung out alone and I barely know things about them because they won’t speak up.
I have friends I vent to and they do the same, it’s a two way street. So what’s up with girls wanting to get guys to open up especially when they haven’t established any trust?
I mean it just seems like probing… see if you are a good fit and don’t have a ton of baggage. Should definitely be a two way street though.
Maybe they want to open up to you after you do first so that they feel comfortable… It’s like « I’m asking you to do something I actually want to do myself, but I am afraid to be the first one bc whenever i opened up to someone they fucked me up– » or that’s just me lol
Because Guys aren’t really known to be emotional so before I open up and get hurt, I want to know more about the guy. Then I can sprinkle in my emotional baggage slowly to not scare the guy off all at once. Also I don’t like being vulnerable but like when guys are. It doesn’t really make sense.
> what’s up with girls wanting to get guys to open up especially when they haven’t established any trust?
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So they can see if there is any emotional blackmail they can use against you should a future relationship turn sour.
Well i can tell you my fears. I have fears of ghosts, mosquitoes, interestingly not spiders, fears of embarassment and being kidnapped.
My dreams are to finish law school and to one day have cool house near a lake and ideally located somewhere where there aren’t many people around and having a pet there.
https://youtu.be/izpKQEV988g 4:20
Been there. The development of the relationship ought to be a mutually iterative process. Expecting you to put your whole self on the table with no promise of reciprocation is a seriously manipulative move
i don’t think there’s a difference between guys/girls – it’s more of a personal issue, some people are just more guarded and take longer to get to know
To pour your heart out to a woman, is to give her the very weapon she uses to destroy you. That’s why. Also why she doesn’t do the same.
In order to see if they like you, they need to know more about you. But they cant the chance to know more about you if they let slip a side of them that you might not like and I wind up leaving before they do.
Essentially just wanting to see what cards you hold in your hand while hiding theirs.
Depends on what insecurities she has but generally, whatever she is feeling, she doesn’t want to be alone and she is too ashamed or afraid to confront them.
She wants to know that you are an empathetic person that she can hug when she feels down.
Confessing her feelings can make her feel ashamed or ruin the impression she has on you.
You must gradually get to know your girlfriend before either side starts opening up. Just tell her little worries you have and assure her until you two can get comfortable.
Fortunately, we aren’t all like that!