Dating : Why does a guy keep insisting that I block him after rejecting him?
TL;DR A guy kept insisting that I block him after rejecting him.
There was this guy whom I met a few years ago. I blocked him before because I didn’t like how he kept saying he fell for me.
We only had one encounter and that was when he asked for directions and I was heading in the same direction. So, I walked him to the pedicab (cycle rickshaw) which would take him to his destination. That’s also the time he asked for my number and I gave it – my mistake.
At first, he was nice but he was becoming a bit too forward. He kept calling and messaging saying cheesy stuff. I had expressed that I didn’t like him in any romantic way but he kept insisting that I blocked. So, I did.
This year, a few months ago, he added me on FB. Today, he messaged me. I recognized his name and asked if it was him. He just said maybe. At some point, he said it’s him and he’s surprised to meet me again on FB. He said he didn’t know I was the one he added because he was just adding random people to increase his viewers. He also said that he doesn’t know why I blocked him. So, we were talking and he said he still loves me. I told him, we’re incompatible and that he barely knows me. I also said that we can be friends but nothing more. He responded to that saying I’m « swinging » – whatever it means.
Now, he kept insisting that I block him. I don’t like being ordered around. Why do I have to block when he could just go as I’ve been clear that I’m not attracted to him?
It’s probably for your own safety that you block him to be honest. He sounds like he has the red flags of a potential stalker and he takes literally any degree of attention or access to you to mean something significant.
I’m not being funny but you SHOULD block him, he’s showing you red flags so I’m surprised you’re even offering him a friendship or speaking to him.
Definitely block him, he’s a weirdo. A woman once told me she prefers to be blocked on things like whatsapp once it’s over because she’d get attached and keep looking when the person was online and hoping for contact. At first I thought he’s the same, but that fb thing makes me question that. He seems like someone to avoid at all costs
Block him
What is the problem, he wants to be blocked, block him, you’ll be doing both of you a favor.
He needs the block to cement that he has no chance. You blocking him will do that. It will make it harder for him to see your social media and keeping hope alive. He will be able to move on.
You will be better off with him not in your life.
While you definitely should block him, he probably just wants to play the victim to his friends. Crying to them about the evil woman who blocked him just for saying hello. Since you probably won’t ever interact with his friends you shouldn’t worry about that. And if you ever do meet those friends you’ll have a message history that proves him wrong.