Dating : Wondering about my girlfriend
I’m 17(M) dating a 17(F).
We honestly have such a dream relationship, we love, talk, cuddle, and just care for each other. We’re pretty serious, as it’s been a year and we haven’t fought. Honestly I couldn’t be happier! She’s so amazing and we can both talk about anything and always come out of it saying “I love you”
Recently, she told me “I hate texting, it’s boring.”
I took this kind of as a “you’re boring” type of thing. I asked her about it, and she kinda got mad saying “why do we always have to go back to square one? Just forget I said that.” That kinda upset me obviously, as my girlfriend calling me boring isn’t a great sign.
She hasn’t texted me as frequently as usual after that, and it kinda hurt. She’s open to hanging out, and she’s still so amazing in person. She’s literally my dream in person, but her texting (if she does it) makes me feel like nothing more than a friend. And recently I’ve just been struggling with health issues (type 1 diabetes) and I kinda complained to her about it which was bad. I don’t wanna seem like such a complainer and ask her why she’s being more distant, but it hurts me inside.
She also said “relationships used to be so much better when there wasn’t texting or anything like that.”
I love her so much and I don’t want this to affect anything 🙁
Please help
she told you she doesnt like texting. just use to make plans to meet up as shes wonderful in person. better yet instead of texting, why not call her. more personal
If she hates texting then that’s an easy fix. She wants more personal contact, a phone call or plans to meet up from time to time would work better.
I can agree with her, texting can feel lazy and impersonal.
I don’t know how you perceive it that way but she’s doing you a favour here. No matter how much you’re in love or what not, constant texting will bore you guys – seems that she’s the one starting off first. It’s not you that’s boring but the mundane routine, predictable and always too available that’s killing the attraction.
Stop focusing on getting her to text, take the extra free time you have now to actually channel that positive energy into something productive. When you meet up for dates, you’ve got something exciting to talk about.