Dating : Need help with texting.
Hello everyone.
So recently I met a girl in a very fun way. Let me develop.
Act 1.
It was at night in an underground parking lot. I was with two friends and one of them was acting … Drunk.
At some point we see two girls in a car and he starts waving at them and then pointing at me saying « he’s the one who’s free » … so dumb. I was embarassed and honestly thought he was bothering them.Also I just couldn’t approach two girls while my drunk friend was watching and yelling dumb shit so we moved on 😂. We parted ways with my friends and I went back to my car to go home.
Act 2.
With my car I reach the exit where there are two automated barriers. In front of the left barrier I notice a car that is not moving so I move to the right and end up right next to the other car.
It was the two girls from before 😂.
So the girl on the passenger seat talks to me she says they were waiting (on me?) for too long and now the barrier won’t go up. I tell her to use the interphone to reach an agent but it was not working either they were soooo struck. At this point I feel like she’s into me but I have to act fast.
« I know what you have to do » I said.
« Oh really »
« Yeah, but you have to give me your number first for it to work »
She says yes and give me her number and right when I’m done typing it in my phone the interphone started Working again out of dumb luck. I was like « you see it was easy 😂 »
To me it was a fantastic interaction but now … I got ghosted after three texts.
I tried my best not to be too invested right at the start and seem needy. I also tried to avoid bullet point questions but I think I’ve been overthinking those texts and they ended up not great.
At some point she said » you’re not very talkative » and never replied.
It was two days ago what should I do ?
It seems to me like she had a fun night and you came across as confident and funny so she gave you her number and when it got to the texting, your confidence dropped and she noticed. Idk what you said to her in your texts but with her reply it seems she found it awkward being in text conversation so you really need to set up a fun date with this girl ASAP before she completely loses interest. When did you meet her?
I would contact her again and say something confident along the lines of “ Hey I’ve been a busy guy planning our first date. Hope I’ve not kept you waiting too long (again!) at least we’re not stuck behind a barrier this time though! So what day works best for you?” slide something funny and witty in there to pique her interest again, something similar to this, as a paragraph will likely put her off, so short and sweet will work best here.
Then plan a date! You could try to keep her guessing as to what you’re planning but make sure you put her mind at rest that it’ll be in a public place and she’ll be safe. (Add some humour to this as well). And don’t ask her what she wants to do, this is your time to shine, you will learn what she likes and doesn’t the more you meet her so make sure you’re listening.
For the date, because you met this girl in a car park, she’s the type of girl who like to be out and about, thriving off conversation and banter, this is not the type of girl you want to take to a fancy restaurant on a first date, cause it might be out of her comfort zone, so a date such as a picnic on the beach, going to the fun fair/ arcades or a zoo. You could take her to a car or bike show. Literally anything thats fun and outdoorsy where you can feel relaxed and show your true confident funny self that attracted her in the first place. You want plenty of things to be going off around you so that you can make her laugh like you did with the inter phone thing. I once had a guy take me for a picnic, then we went for a drive and he said he’d got me a present, he brought 2 fireworks and we set them off over the mountains. That was actually one of the best first dates I’ve ever had so make your first date memorable in the best way for this girl!
She seems like a really nice girl so hurry up and get back in touch with her!
The only time you should use your phone to communicate with women you like is to set up dates. Anything else is fucking up your chances of making that happen.