Dating : Being boring on dates
I (27 m) been going on dates from dating apps and I am kinda bad at it. I feel like girls are uninterested and I feel like it’s my fault, like I’m being pretty boring and not doing anything to make them interested in me.
What should I do to make them more interested? I am pretty sure it’s my personality because even instead of going to bar I try to make a picnic with wine in parks etc. I don’t have much experience in dates and help would be appreciated.
It would help to know what you’re doing on dates first.
What do you talk about. What activities do you plan. Etc.
You mentioned the picnic, what do you do while on the picnic?
Are you interested in them? Do you ask them questions about themselves?
You might not be boring, maybe your dates are. Ha.
But in all seriousness, your strategy to dating seems sound, and some people may like that you do dates in a nontraditional manner. Perhaps you may need to let your date have more say in the date.
I have all kinds of go-to conversations that I try. « Okay, so « if you could have any superpower, what would you have and what is the very first thing you would do with it? »
« If we could rob a bank right now and get a million dollars, where would we go and what would we spend it on? »
« Which orange came first, the fruit or the color? »
There are plenty of books that have stuff like this in, go to a bookstore, find one and memorize a dozen or so questions.
You could also learn to read palms, which is always fun and it gets them in the playful mood as well.
And don’t go on a picnic, go hiking instead, go see waterfalls and nature, find one of those « Weird places » books for your state and visit one that’s close.