Dating : Craving intimate sex
I’ve been seeing a FWB for almost a year now and while I get along with her well and she is fun I have no real emotion towards her. I have explained this and she’s fine with things being the way they are.
Every time we have sex it makes me feel that bit more lonely. I mean I do enjoy the sex and so does she but it really makes me miss that close intimate sex you can have with someone.
I do go on dates to meet other people but I’ve never found anyone I really like.
I’m 33 this year and sometimes you do wonder if this is going to be it. All my friends are in LTR, married and have kids. On the plus side it gives me a lot of time to focus on my goals and dreams but I really do wish I had someone to share my heart with
Don’t let yourself wonder too much. I was 40 and in the same boat, then I met her.
I would consider dropping the fwb situation, but that’s probably just me. If you rob the experience of emotion, you may be training yourself inadvertently. Then, when you *do* find a special person…
Good luck to you
I only have FWB but the sex is on a spectrum just like anything else from raunchy animalistic to soul binding Alex gray painting. I never understood keeping emotions completely severed I thought that was the whole point of sex, at least for me. But if it’s something that’s making you feel worse why continue?
I’ve found casual sex just drains me emotionally so i’ve stopped now i only cuddle.
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Maybe just have fun with someone without involving sex, so your bond on a personal level. Then im sure relationships will form.
If casual sex with your FWB isn’t making you happy, then why continue? If I were you, I’d take a break and focus on yourself.
Sure wish I had this problem.
I don’t get casual sex either. Sex with someone I have a connection with and deeply attracted to is the best feeling but sex with someone meh or I am not into is just sad.
Read this as inmate sex
This is kinda off topic. I (F) was in a situationship (I feel better saying that instead of FWB) for 1.5 yr. I fell hard for him. I’ve read how guys can separate emotions from sex. But I just don’t understand how. I don’t get it. My asking has nothing to do with your situation. I’ve never straight up asked a guy about this.
Drop it, she’s using you and you are using her. Unless you change the dynamics of your relationship, this will be an empty hollow piece of your life.
Don’t worry about your age. Men _can_ date girls that are let’s say 10 years younger… if you believe that’s necessary to find a girl that should become the mother of your children. If you are getting shunned by your peers that’s out of envy alone. It’s irrelevant as long as you are confident that you two can build a long-lasting family.
Other than that I’d suggest stopping the casual sex for a while or reducing its frequency (if you don’t fall back to porn at some point you just want to release no matter what). Ain’t that obvious?
> but I’ve never found anyone I really like.
Hey, I’m in the same boat. I haven’t fallen in love for about 9 years now. I don’t really know why. Am 28.
FWB eventually just feels like a prostitute later.
They aren’t in love either. They just act like it. You are getting more and more depressed having sex out of wedlock. That’s because humans weren’t designed to do that. Stop letting that woman steal your happiness for pleasure. Stop lying to yourself and her. She will hate you once you start telling her truth.
Well man… you’re getting sex, you want kids out of it? Produce a ring.
I’ll be Frank about it. I don’t really trust anyone so I’d be fine with it. But when I was in relationships, the sole rationality was that I’d be the worker in the relationship and I’d establish when things should go further. So I’m saying you’re basically on your own if your experiences are anything like mine.
And another one realises that casual sex is bad for you. Now let’s see if he has the balls and selfcare to stop it and save himself for someone worthy.