Dating : Dating tips for someone with a Disorganized / Fearful-Avoidant attachment style? F27
Hi! I’m in my late 20s and I’ve never been on a first date, relationship or experienced intimacy other than asking one friend for an friends with benefits situation that felt clinical since we weren’t into each other.
I have a trauma I’ve worked through from my childhood and even from a few years ago. I also struggle with body dysmorphia. I’ve avoided dating and relationships because of my mental health, and how I look. I tried losing weight in the past and despite having success with it it did nothing for me mentally. I learned that I must work through my trauma and mental health first before fixing how I look.
This aside I do wish to be in a safe, secure relationship with a partner that accepts all of me and never gets tired of me. I’ve struggled through a lot but I think it would be incredible and grounding to have a partner who cares about me, and for me to have someone to care about in a special way.
My attachment style is Disorganized/ Fearful & Avoidant, the rarest but I know it’s the most difficult to work with. If you have any tips for me to overcome this and to pursue dating for the first time please let me know. I have learned that I am worthy of love and someone I can be vulnerable with and feel safe, I just want to be prepared for when I hop on those dating apps haha. Thank you for reading!