Dating : Getting a rose on the first date
So.. I had a guy ghost me after the first date. We texted everyday and would do over one hr FaceTime/phone calls prior to our first date. End of June and all of July we were both pretty busy so we finally met after a month. He told me everyday I was beautiful, gorgeous, that he loved my smile etc. I would be on FaceTime and he would say it, I couldn’t help but blush n smile more n he said he loved it.
I was on the phone with him on my way to meet him we were both super nervous we said. He gave me a small red single rose bouquet with a hug as our greeting. 10min in he asked if I was nervous I said yes I still was and I asked him and he said nah he was good.
Our date was mini golf he was competitive I was super lucky and kept on making all the shots. We were laughing hard I felt like our interaction was friendly and not romantic but maybe that’s the setting and just the small talk we did. I wasn’t worried since we had this connection already. But I was concerned with him not being nervous and not once given me a compliment.
We hugged at the end he told me to text when I got home. When I got home I already had a text from him that he was home n had a lot of fun. I thought awesome he’s saying he had fun. I texted back I had fun too and thanks for the rose with a heart emoji.
Next morning he was super cold no cute emojis to say good morning/night like he always did. So at the point I thought ok.. he’s probably not into me. Again he was distant Sunday morning. So I texted him Sunday mid day replying to his text AND added I noticed ur distant n asked basically what’s up but I would hope he would just talk to me about it. Monday morning no reply so I just deleted him on social media.
Do you think with his nervousness gone after mins it meant he was already not into me or just comfortable? I was comfy in a sweater with leggings and new shoes. Maybe that was the turn off and he saw I was not DTF. I had my hair curled and makeup on tho. Why buy me a rose that’s not really normal is it lol? & Don’t we all look the same on Facetime and RL? Or could he have seen me « different » and not attractive.
You’re first assumption is usually correct.
Ask yourself, “If he was into me, would he ghost, and change his ways of communicating with me right after our date?
You’ll never know without asking him, and that also assumes he’ll tell you the truth. It also doesn’t matter why he wasn’t into the interaction anymore because everything you said, did, wore, etc. on that date someone else would have loved. It’s all subjective, the best thing you can do is to simply move without trying to figure out the why because it’s actually pointless.
There was likely no real chemistry for him on the date.
ugh all that leading up to it just sounds like too much but then again I really dislike facetime, may have set it up to fizzle out. Also ick factor for me on the rose but everyone is different
People do all sorts of things on first date. it doesn’t mean that their feelings for you are stronger than somebody else who didn’t do it.
So getting a flower does not mean anything. getting a hug on the first date does that mean anything, and getting a text from him after the date does not mean anything.
because within 24 hours after the end of the date , he already has told you that he not interested in any further communication.
And nothing to do with whether you wore something skimpy or covered up, want sex or not.
He made a decision based on how he perceived you after meeting you, and that was enough for him.