Dating : Gone after one date.
I (26f) went on a date a couple weeks back with a man (31m) and it seemed like it went well. He was very polite and caring. Mentioned taking me out again and showing me a few of his favorite spots in town. He texted me after to make sure I made it home. The next morning we had a short conversation and then he disappeared, showed up the next morning with the excuse that he fell asleep. He started a conversation again but was lagging his texts. Asked me my plans for the evening and then disappeared again. I hadn’t heard from him in days so I reached out and he sent me a very excited message and claimed he didn’t respond because he got a call and forgot. I didn’t respond because I felt he wasn’t interested. Last week he commented on a picture of mine on social media.
He was not that bad of a communicator before our date. I just feel like if a man is interested they’ll put in the effort. I also realized that maybe I didn’t show my interest in him much. Do I reach out and see where it goes or should I just drop it because he has made it very clear how he feels?
When you have to ask ‘is he interested’ you already have a problem on your hands. He’s probably not, if he were, you would know, you wouldn’t wonder. Listen to the link below, the guy knows what he’s talking about.
https://youtu.be/RRLKO05ztrg
> I didn’t respond because I felt he wasn’t interested.
> I also realized that maybe I didn’t show my interest in him much.
> I just feel like if a man is interested they’ll put in the effort.
It sounds like you’re interested and want to talk to him, but you’re hung up on some troglodytic tradition that expects the male to assume all responsibility of impetus in dating.
> Do I reach out
Yep!
> should I just drop it because he has made it very clear how he feels?
Has he actually said anything that would suggest that? It sounds like he could just be terrible at texting. Five years is actually a pretty big difference in terms of digital culture.
What are you texting about? If it’s not setting up plans for another date and just chit chat, you have girlfriends for that.