Dating : Got ghosted and I really don’t know how I’m going to get over this

Dating : Got ghosted and I really don’t know how I’m going to get over this

I’ll try to keep it as short as possible. Met a guy in December when I moved to a new town. This guy was undeniably a gentleman, funny, and just a great conversation to have. Dating him never crossed my mind until over time our attraction and chemistry was just undeniable. The end of April rolls around and we gave in to our feelings and took things to the romantic side. We were doing so many things together and he introduced me to so many new things and I could honestly say it was the first time I had true and healthy fun in a long time. He introduced me to his family, went out with him and his friends, setting up plans for going back to school etc. his family and friends constantly told me how shocked they were to see this side of him. How he was noticeably more happy, not as stressed, and just how highly he talked about me. Fast forward to the end of May, he sits me down and tells me he wants me in his life for a really long time and how he was worried that we were going to fast, which I agreed with. It had only been a few months since we started dating but I considered this guy a friend as well. Things were just so natural. I still had some doubt though. I told him that if he was hesitant with me at all to just let me know and I’d give him space. He assured me that he just wanted this to work. I had to go on a family trip a few days later. I’ve been gone for 9 days and he hasn’t answered any of my texts or calls. Monday morning he texted “I miss you and I’m sorry I’m being distant. I have a mental thing going on” but carried on ignoring me. I fly back into town tomorrow and he was suppose to pick me up from the airport. I asked if he was still coming and no response. He’s been on social media and last night he posted himself at a party with what looked to be his ex in the background. I really don’t know what to feel. He’s not answering me so I have no answers. Things were going so well I just don’t understand how he could do this to me.

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  1. Jesus, this is a sociopathic move if anything. It sucks that you’d have to be on the receiving end of this! You’ll cope OP, it’ll suck for a while though. Big hugs!

  2. Seems like the classic « self destruct if everything is going well and it feels too good to be true » thing. Let that man go, you deserve a grown up man that can handle his emotions. Also, I can guarantee he will regret being a dumbass and hit you up with a « Hey.. » RIGHT after you almost got over it lol

  3. jesus, he sounds absolutely fucking terrible. good fucking riddance. i’m sorry. the trash took itself out tho.

    ghosting/being treated like crap by someone you really like is unbearable sometimes. i’ve experienced it a number of times and felt like i wouldn’t ever get over each one either. you will, though. absolutely. it just takes time.

  4. Wow that is such a shitty and unclassy thing to do. He seems to be stringing you along, and people like that know how to say the things you want to hear to keep you on that string. There is a chance that this person might contact you again, but you have to stay strong and not respond. I’m sorry to hear about this experience, but you’re only option is to move on.

  5. I’m sorry you’re going through this .. yea I say drop him . Once someone acts shady , I’ll forgive , but it’s hard to look at them same way without doubts . Find someone who deserves you !

  6. I’m sorry this is happening to you. My only advice is to not get so involved when it’s not exclusive yet and you’re not in a relationship. Tey not to get your hopes up until it’s real you know. But wven then sometimes shitty things like this happen, it’s just how dating goes.
    Do NOT get back with him. Next time he messages you (which he will when he’s lonely) say something along the lines of « No thanks, I have no interest in someone who plays games with me. I saw you at a party while you were ignoring me and you used mental health as an excuse as to why ». Hope everythings worka out for you ».
    Drop him and move on to someone who treats you right! Just think, he’s going to do the same thing to his ex. You dodged a bullet.

  7. Sounds like he got back together with his ex. You will receive a text out of the blue one day and he will try to see you again and will probably disappear after he hits it.

  8. The big red flag was when he told you he wanted space despite having such a good thing going with you. Sounds like he strung you along big time.

  9. That’s rough but maybe he thought picking you up at the airport was too fast or something. anyway you know his feelings because nobody leaves the other at an airport if they really want to make a good impression

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