Dating : He isn’t looking for a bootycall neither a serious relationship. What does it mean?
I (32f)’ve been dating this guy (35m) for one month and asked him what he was looking for since I’m looking for a serious relationship.
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Our dates are good, he is very caring and initiate things. We haven’t had the opportunity to date during the day though. He took me to restaurant and movies and he slept my house.
On the 4th date, I asked him what he was looking for. I told him I was not looking for a fling but a serious relationship.
He answered that he is looking for something in between and that my question was a little bit scary.
He later on the 6th date that because of his lifestyle (he travels often for 6/10months) he never had a long term relationship (6 months max) and that’s why he gave me that answer.
I’m wondering, did he say that because he was not that into me or does he really mean it?
If you meet a great girl, would you say her that you aren’t looking for something serious despite your attraction to her? Wouldn’t it ruin your chance with that girl?
Im not sure if I should continue to see him or if i should take it slow. This makes me anxious and insecure.
> On the 4th date, I asked him what he was looking for. I told him I was not looking for a fling but a serious relationship.
> He answered that he is looking for something in between and that my question was a little bit scary.
Guy is either immature or lying to you. No 35 year old should be scared by « what are you looking for » type question.
His answer probably stems from his work and travel issue.
Yes , you are right giving the honest answer does ruin his chances of being with a great girl but he travels so often for work , will you be able to handle it when he isn’t available emotionally when you are in some sort of crisis ?
Have you thought about how your needs in the relationship would be met even if you guys did get serious ? Maybe these are the things on his mind.
Maybe you are a strong person , you will put up with every challenge that comes your way and still be loyal perhaps he has had previous experiences where the woman couldn’t handle his emotional unavailability and that’s why he seems to give an answer which is so diplomatic.