Dating : Help me text my crush
Hi, I just completed an internship and I have a crush on one of the other interns. We are both shy but have shown indicators that we like each other including her glancing at me and talking about me to others. But we never got much time to interact one on one because the other interns were always around. We had some text convos, and I did ask her about hanging out once and she didn’t reply (i was a little forward/fast about it and I could tell she got nervous). But we have talked since then and everything is still good between us.
I wanted to send her this text now that the internship is over
« Hey X(her name), I wanted you to know that meeting you and hanging out with you this summer was one of the best parts of my summer. Also, if you are interested, I would love to get some coffee or lunch with you sometime? It’s totally cool if you are not interested, no pressure. But just let me know though if you are not interested, thanks!
I was also thinking of writing this instead.
« Hey X(her name), I wanted you to know that it was really great meeting you and hanging out with you this summer. I think you are really smart and really interesting. If you are interested, I would love to get some coffee or lunch with you sometime? No worries if you prefer not to, just let me know though please, thanks!
My concerns
1. am I coming off as creepy/desperate?
2. she is pretty shy, am I placing to much pressure on her in the text?
no. if you already texted her… she responded… you sprung a question… and she ignored. she ain’t interested. either wait til she texts back or comes up to you in person…. don’t do it….
or if you gonna ask again have the balls to do it in person…. try to make it more casual though….
by the way both of those texts are terrible…
as a man, I can smell the fresh concrete from the pedestal you already have her on, and she can too…. don’t send those texts….
if she’s shy you gonna have to be more keen in person….
also, if y’all work together, take your fucking time. it’s a marathon , not a sprint wait until she gives you some signs. shy girls tend to linger or give it away with their eyes…..
shy girls like hot guys that aren’t jerks…. so that means make subtle body language advances.. don’t be so forward verbally…. until she starts giving you something to work with
lick your lips at her… a warm and gentle smile…. don’t compliment her out of nowhere…. wait til she brings up something regarding her appearance… and then reassure she looks good. if she blushes- bingo….
use your convo…. yes you are desperate… calm it down…
if she’s an intern ima assume she’s younger, younger people prefer text but fuck that…. phone calls or in person is always gonna tell u what it is…
I’d go with #2. It’s good you’re being honest and straightforward about it. I’d say just go for it and see what happens!
I’d go for option two but let out the “if you’re not interested just tell me it’s fine if you’re not interested…” because it sounds way more confident when you just say it how it is. She can always say no but only suggesting one option makes you seem way more confident.
Good luck 🙂
> I did ask her about hanging out once and she didn’t reply
What did you send that time? Was that the last text message you’ve sent her?
I would just keep casual not a book! Say hello was thinking about that funny blah blah want to get together and meet u near campus?