Dating : How do you overcome feelings of hopeless in dating
So I’ve taken some hard hits over the past week when it comes to women. Two of the situations began as what I expected to be easy wins but ended almost comically bad. This week caps off year of crappy dating experiences and–even though I should know better– I’m starting to think its hopeless. What advice have you given yourself or to friends who have felt this way.
Strive to be the best you that you can be. You’ll neet someone great along the way.
I think you have to change your expectations. You said they were “easy wins” which is problematic in itself. You’re dealing with people. They are unpredictable and you’ll never know them 100%. It’s also not a game.
I think if you go into situations just hoping that you’ll enjoy yourself and maybe make a connection; it won’t feel like a blow if things don’t work out. If not working out shouldn’t effect your self-esteem. (unless you got some constructive criticism from your dates).
And sometimes it’s okay to take a break from dating and spend some time pursuing some personal goals and with friends and family. I think we sometimes forget how fulfilling our relationships with ourself and loved ones can be.
I just try not to think about it to be honest. It’s gonna get a whole lot worse before it gets any better because people have just changed. You can work on yourself all you like but it doesn’t change the fact that everyone around you is broken. Since you can’t fix other people, what does that leave you with? I’ll engage when it comes my way but I don’t expect anything sensational.