Dating : How should I (F21) tell a guy (M23) my reasons for rejecting him?
So I (F21) recently rejected a guy (M23) who has shown significant interest in me. He is great guy, we got along well, and I know that he will make a girl very happy one day.
The thing is though that I am come from a higher socioeconomic background compared to him (private vs public school) and that based on our intended careers, I have a higher earning potential than he does ($300K vs $150K). The thing is, I don’t think I am able to date a guy who has significantly less wealth and / or income than I do. I definitely believe that a woman should be able to have a career and do well, but that her priority should be the kids, at least when they are young. Therefore, in order to avoid a significant drop in standards of living and financial fights when the kids are young, I think it would be more appropriate for me to be with a man whose income and wealth are closer to my own. They don’t have to exceed, just be close enough to matching.
Our mutual friend (F22) however was not happy when I told her my reasons for my rejection. She felt that as women start succeeding, they need to let go of the male provider dynamic. She also suggested that he would be more than willing to stay at home with the kids when they are young, and I know he will, I just would rather do it and feel like it is my place, my right if you will, to do so. She also told me that if I told tell him why I rejected him, she will. I’m wondering how should I lay out my reasons without sounding like a horrible person