Dating : I don’t know why I can’t get women in america
I am a kind person.I am faithful.I have serious intentions.women in the past have said I’m attractive.but american women of all races just don’t like me at all.I do look like a Muslim ethnicity and that is probably it.
But there’s the thing.I do amazing on foreign dating sites.afrointroductions,filipinacupid,asian dating,latin American cupid etc I am flooded with girls .I had a long term relationship long distance with a Ethiopian girl and a filipina girl that both said I was attractive and were surprised I didn’t have a gf since moving to america from Holland.one of them said I looked like a ladysman.
But the same pics I use on their that elicit wows can barely get ANY matches on tinder or any western dating site.
And the women that do match me only want my validation of choosing them.
This has made me very depressed and angry.I don’t know what’s wrong with me besides my MENA appearance (I’m black,native,Italian and white biracial)if that’s the reason please just be honest.it would give me peace that it’s out of my control to change people’s racist mindset.I do get hostility everywhere I go too.
Do you think it’s just that I’m hated because of my racial appearance ?I’m not ugly at all.
Maybe because you’re insane and North American women won’t put up with that bullshit?
According to your profile, you’ve been a southern Baptist, but never been baptized, an exmuslim, a Buddhist, a Hindu, an orthodox Christian, a Roman Catholic, and are now a Muslim again (while also being a member of an oriental orthodox church). You also claimed to have suffered demonic attacks and were only saved by God’s grace.
Nobody wants to date this level of crazy.
You should post your profile and pics and people will give you advice and feedback.
To say that all American women don’t like you, is an over generalization. Now if you’re only open to particular strata of American women, and don’t have time for the other ones, then you will have a more difficult time.
People tend to date people like themselves. If you are arab/muslim, you will have the most luck with people like yourself. It’s unfair, but it’s true. Black people will get the most responses from black people, latino people from latino people, white people from white people, asian people from asian people.
If you want to date outside of your ethnicity/religion/race it will be an uphill battle. It will be much easier if you live in a diverse, large city with a very mixed population who are used to dating diverse people.
You can’t make people be not racist, but even if you were white, would you really want to date racist people?
I am a white woman, and I got WAAAAY more responses from non-white men than white men. I really barely every got a response from a white man. That’s because non-white men don’t get as many responses, so they’re more likely to accept my match. But also I’m fine dating non white men, so it hasn’t been an issue.
Women in America just want tall white guys
Unfortunately it’s quite possible. Hard to say without seeing you, though.
From my perspective as a white American woman that frequently dates guys from other cultures and other ethnicities, I look for indications that their culture or background isn’t going to be problematic. Various things go into that, ranging from clothes to facial hair to how they carry themselves and interact with others.
But it gets very complicated because of all of the assumptions we make about someone from their appearance. For example, sometimes someone with strong eyebrows can come across as more aggressive than someone with smaller eyebrows. Same with facial hair, different ways of trimming it can give very different impressions. The impressions someone gets from you, and whether the resulting assumptions are viewed as good traits or bad traits, vary significantly by culture.
So unfortunately I don’t really have any advice for you, other than maybe see if you can think about how the aspects of your appearance that you do have control over (such as eyebrows, hair, facial hair, clothes, etc) might be influencing how people perceive you. You don’t have to change things, I’m just saying it might be helpful to be aware of how different cultures are perceiving the different aspects of how you present yourself. There could be a small change that would improve things for you and wouldn’t bother you to make, but you wouldn’t know until you look for it.