Dating : I had a really weird date/hookup last night and I’m not sure how to feel
Hi!
So I am a girl and I have been seeing this girl recently. We are in our early 20s. We met on a dating app and our first date was amazing. We went to a fancy restaurant and ended up hooking up later that night. It was great and we had so much chemistry. Anyways from the very beginning I knew that she doesn’t want anything serious because she goes to school in another state and only comes back to my town to visit family. I’m okay with nothing being serious. So I was excited to see her again so she came over to my apartment to spend the night.
Now this is where things got kinda weird. So I had to call her a Lyft because for some reason she got banned from the app or something. I was okay with that whatever. So I the Lyft driver is pulling up to my apartment. And I see that she was sitting in the front seat of his car. I thought that was odd and she was also holding his hand. She tells me that she almost had sex with him. And when she was in the Lyft she didn’t text me the whole ride so I feel like she did something with him. He was also an old man so weird. When she gets out the car I noticed that she’s not sober like she’s drunk.
And then we walked over to the elevator and there was this random guy and she starts to flirt with him. And getting really sexual with him in front of me. And then gets his number and she wanted us to go to this
Random guys apartment like tease him or have a threesome. She was like let’s have fun we’re young. I just didn’t think it was safe to go to the guys apartment. I told her i wasn’t down for it.he seemed like a really sketchy guy and I got a bad vibe from him. The first hour we were hanging out she kept bringing him up and asking me if I want to go. But I just wanted to spend time with her. And I know this isn’t anything serious between us and again I’m fine with that. We still ended up hooking up last night and it was good. But her behavior last night just made me feel kind of bad. I’m okay with her being free and wanting to bring other partners to hookup with us. But not random strangers. I don’t know if I should keep on seeing this girl. I just thought it it was so weird the way she started out the night. And I’m okay with her being open about her sexuality and seeing other people I’m seeing other people to. But I still think it was kind of rude to flirt with someone in front of me maybe because she was drunk?
I don’t know is it weird of me to feel bad about her behavior?
She could be a dangerous person tbh… banned from Lyft for what? Is she having sex with old men for money / trying to get you to join some type of prostitution/sex-trafficking ring lol?? Good for you listening to your gut and not going to that guy’s apartment. Seriously, don’t let anyone push your boundaries no matter how attractive or good in bed. Be safe
As someone who also likes to be active with partners in « unconventional » ways, I wouldn’t want to be around that. Like. At all. It’d be one thing if you were both inebriated and shit happens, but I’d feel like. Really weird having someone I’m interesting slink from a lyft driver, to a stranger, incessantly brought it up, and then to me in the span of an hour. I wouldn’t even want to touch them at that point. And don’t get me wrong, I enjoy extra curricular activities, but I have things that would make me feel disrespected and that would be one
Let her go. Being drunk isn’t an excuse and this is definitely not normal behaviour. Sounds to me like she has a lot of unresolved childhood trauma and she uses men and sex as a form of validation to mask her issues.
Ew no
Sounds like she might be an alcoholic.