Dating : I keep getting rejected.
Before you all tell me the same stuff, I am a 21 year old woman. I exercise frequently. I have a pretty tone body. Many hobbies and activities I immerse myself in. I do boxing, I run and lift, I hike and enjoy the outdoors and gardening. I love riding my little motorcycle. I love my pets and cooking and expirimenting making new drinks (alcoholic beverages and mixology even though I cant drink much) I’m getting back into electric guitar… I can make small talk and I have excellent hygine. However I cannot get a girlfriend.
I keep getting rejected or told I am ugly or not their type. Mostly I am ghosted. I try not to reply too promptly or too sparse because apparently girls get mad at me if i respond so quickly but I dont want to play games.
A couple of these images are from my old instagram, but I just do not understand what more i have to do to get a girlfriend. It makes me want to die. I’m at a loss for what else i have to do. Theres men out here scoring beautiful women and I cant even get laid for a hookup.
Edit: the amount of women I have calling me ugly on tinder or ok cupid is astoundingly sad. I don’t understand what I have to do. I was told by a close friend I look like a scrappy runt and that I am deformed. I exercise to try and make my body more desireable and im close to getting abs but even still its not enough for these goddamn women. I plan on killing myself at 27 or 30 if im not in at least one real relationship.
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I looked at your pics and you are pretty hot. I don’t see why women would pass you up unless you just aren’t their « type ». Keep doing what your doing, work on yourself and it will happen.
It’s a bit difficult to tell what you look like with the filter but that « friend » is anything BUT a friend!
Keep working on yourself, learn to love yourself fully and fulfill yourself. Although I can’t see through the filter I very highly doubt you’re ugly, personally I am not a fan of a woman with rock hard abs, just knowing that she takes care of herself and cares about her health will make me love her body no matter what it looks like
You have nice eyes and nice ink. The lipstick seems as little dark. Maybe try looking a little more “feminine”? (As a straight male, this is just a guess.)
I think you look fine, but I’m a straight male. Your hair style isnt my thing but you have a pretty face. You sound like you need straight answers (no pun intended, saying that because of Asbergers). Most guys dont like getting caught in the technicalities of how fast you respond or some stuff like that. So speaking on the girls your meeting..idk. That’s a young age thing too
By the way I did take the time to download the app and look at your pictures without filters.
First of all I’m just gonna say most of the girls saying that you are deformed are exaggerating and I’m not saying that to be nice but your not ugly I wouldnt say that you are model level but you certainly are atleast average to slightly above average the problem I think comes from yourself.
I don’t know how you interact with girls but it’s just a fact that if you don’t spend the time to build a connection then it’s just not gonna work out. You also have to be more secure in yourself even if you get rejected because that’s just a part of the game it’s the same for straight guys you just have to keep going and be secure that eventually you will meet someone even if you get rejected a 100 times
Hey there, 22 year old here.
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**TL:DR**: Focus on yourself more in your passions so that you may attract less superficial women and be able to find a woman who shares the same passions as you. Don’t get discouraged because some Instagram model wants a 10/10.
I think the reality is that a lot of the women on there aren’t really looking to be in a relationship. I am not a woman but my girl pals tell me stories about their hookups with women and sometimes show them off to me.
Dating apps aren’t really dating when most of the time the hottest women are just there for sex and even the 5/10’s. My friends merely just want to bait in the hottest meat and just screw with them. Now eventually we all grew up and they want something real when they fully embraced their sexual preference.
The problem is not the appearance but the lack of women who share the same interest for you.
Unfortunately, the reason why men get women is purely because is the most common form of relationships.
While it is also normal to see guys with guys, girls with girls… it is just not often I see them in public.
I don’t think you should kill yourself over women who don’t like you. It’s a preference and just you can’t take that to heart. There are guys who would kill for your body and looks and HELL maybe height as well. You just have to keep testing the waters and dip in to see. Yeah you might find one girl looking for 10/10 or who just say a lot of undermining things to you just to boost your ego. To be honest they are as just insecure as you because for them to put you below them means they seek for someone who can accept them that is on a higher level. Realistically though, relationships are formed when people click. You just have to be patient. 8 years, 4 ex’s, 6 hookups. Take it from me. Hookups don’t lead to anything if you looking into a relationship unless you guys really click good. I currently click well with a woman who DOES NOT make me think to have sex with her. Shes hot and everything but just her personality is way hotter.
Also your close friend is a jackass, no offense, to call you that. Don’t take it to heart.
What do lesbians send instead of dick pics?
You look hot to me. If you were straight i’d date you. Like many others said and this same advice is given to many other guys.. Girls are in high demand on dating apps because many guys (married, with girlfriends or not, single etc.) want them.
I don’t know if you use lesbian or bi-datingapps specifically but for online dating this is a problem for men/women with honest intentions.
Also, because girls at about 20-25 are so in high demand they can say crap about anyone they like. Don’t take it too seriously. Girls in that agerange usually act more on sudden emotion then rationality (like when you said if you don’t get a girlfriend by age 30 you’re going to kill yourself.. Really? Because of that?).
Funny thing is, your question would be the exact same thing a guy on here would ask.. Very interesting to hear this coming from a female voice for a change. I seriously taught i was answering a guy’s post in the first few min.
Lastly, you want a girlfriend, i understand.. But your post kindoff smells desperate. Do you want just about any girl to be your partner? Have some standards and be specific in what you want.. Especially personality wise!
Hey gonna chime in and say you’re fairly attractive (killer tat by the way) what is the lead up to them saying these extremely negative things if you don’t mind my asking.
You’re punching above your weightclass
You are not ugly! Just don’t use as many filters. You look better without them. Hope that helps.