Dating : Looking pretty good but hard to even get a date (25M)
Hey. I am an international student in the US. I come from a western country so the American culture is very familiar for me. I had some confidence issues in the past but after I got compliments about my look I started to talk to girls. In my home country I had a relationship but it ended after a few months. Now I’m in the US. I live in an area of a few hundred thousand people but have no luck on Tinder/Hinge or any other app. I already tried to get numbers from a few girls. Not much of success. One girl gave the number but later said she currently not interested. Im in a flight school so not a lot of girls around… Any advices where can I find a girl? I usualy go to Dunkin and McDonald’s and there are few nice workers there but I dont know if its a good idea to try hit them.
Advices and tips would be appreciated 🙂
Keep Going to coffee shops..the book stores .where you can find ..and places where people tend to stroll or stop and hang out.
Be direct. Work on speaking clearly. Aggressive dudes go far in America. Not rape aggressive, but confident aggressive. Steer clear of any girls with unnaturally colored hair. Do those you will do well. Good luck!
A few hundred thousand people is basically a village in America, and if you’re in flight school, I’m guessing that it’s a tough region to date past high school. Just have fun and focus on moving to an area where you can actually join the world.
My advice to you is ask the girl out on a date first. I don’t care if you just want sex, that’s totally fine. But you have to come off very unassuming. Don’t have sex on your mind when talking to her, don’t make anything sexual about your conversation. Don’t text her and say « when are we hanging out » or « you’re cute/pretty. » Cause odds are, is that there are several other guys hitting her up saying those exact things. Be different. Be the anomaly.
Don’t comment on her looks, comment on her personality. Even if you found her on tinder. Say « you seem like a really fun person » etc. Also, ask her out somewhere real first, not just to a Netflix and chill session in your bed cause to us girls that translates to: ‘I’m expecting a blow job.’ Even if all you want is to hook up, don’t let her know that. All it takes is one real date first and then she’ll be so much more likely to hook up with you. Act like you’re really interested in her and what she has to say. Cause if she feels like sex isn’t on your mind, then she’ll be way more relaxed. And ultimately, that’s how you’re gonna make her feel comfortable about having sex, cause it’ll feel like it’s on her terms not yours.
I swear if half of the guys currently texting me just asked me for like a coffee or something I’d be 110% more likely to actually go meet up with them. It doesn’t have to be anything serious, literally just something quick and in daytime or early evening rather than a booty call at 2am. That would be all I needed to choose that guy over the other three. Just one casual date first where I don’t feel pressured and then I’ll literally do whatever you want hahaha. Cause you don’t understand how many guys don’t do this and it’s so so so easy!!!